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What is your long-term relationship status?

Single and expect to remain so	17%	[ 28 ]
Single so far but hoping for relationship	19%	[ 31 ]
In a relationship, and expect to remain so	32%	[ 54 ]
In a relationship but not happy with it	4%	[ 6 ]
In a relationship but partner is not happy with it	4%	[ 7 ]
Separated or divorced	18%	[ 30 ]
Other	7%	[ 11 ]

Total votes : 167

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31 Aug 2019, 2:01 am

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nobody is totally useless, they can always serve as a bad example. i guess i'm a bad example. :oops:

You have a kid?

as far from it as is possible. but based on my alarmed reaction to my sometimes violent autistic nephew and long-suffering niece, i'm a rotten great uncle.

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31 Aug 2019, 2:04 am

I'm not in a position to judge an uncle for not spending enough time with their nephew/neice.

I was talking about fathers running away from their parental responsibility. NTs dads do have a bad reputation.

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31 Aug 2019, 2:06 am

i honest-to-christ have no idea how i'd fare as a parent of autistic children. if i had to raise a kid like how i was, i'd lose my marbles after a short while.

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31 Aug 2019, 2:08 am

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i honest-to-christ have no idea how i'd fare as a parent of autistic children. if i had to raise a kid like how i was, i'd lose my marbles after a short while.

It can be both the most terrifying and most rewarding experience. I myself don't think I am the best dad but then how many of us really know what makes a great dad?

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31 Aug 2019, 2:13 am

cyberdad wrote:

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i honest-to-christ have no idea how i'd fare as a parent of autistic children. if i had to raise a kid like how i was, i'd lose my marbles after a short while.

It can be both the most terrifying and most rewarding experience. I myself don't think I am the best dad but then how many of us really know what makes a great dad?

i am sure if i got to watch you in parental action, i would be impressed. :star:

if you're in the ballpark at all, you surely learn and improve over time. the parents of my nephew/niece are overwhelmed and needed hired help. problem is there is a lot of folie à deux happening where the younger less autistic kid emulates the behavior of the older more autistic kid.

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31 Aug 2019, 2:21 am

Up to the age of 11 kids a actually very appreciative of you. After that age they start to become independent and you are just plain old dad :lol:

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31 Aug 2019, 2:23 am

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Up to the age of 11 kids a actually very appreciative of you. After that age they start to become independent and you are just plain old dad :lol:

do you know any other parents of kids on the spectrum?

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31 Aug 2019, 2:29 am

Yeah I've gotten to know plenty now. When my daughter hit 11 and wanted to meet new people I made attempt to meet parents of autistic kids.

My experience is that all come across as NT (i have never met a parent who self-identifies as autistic).

They are much the same as your average joes except they are underlying stressed about their kid/s.

Since my daughter's diagnosis the few NT friends I had vanished from our lives and I accept I won't have any new friends till I kick the proverbial bucket.

NTs (including my fellow parents) are all too engrossed in their own lives (I suspect they probably think of me in the same way).

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31 Aug 2019, 2:31 am

^^^they were only "fair weather friends" anyways, a dime a dozen.

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31 Aug 2019, 2:35 am

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^^^they were only "fair weather friends" anyways, a dime a dozen.

I'm waiting for fleshy AI bots to be my future friend

Like holding a conversation with Siri

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31 Aug 2019, 2:42 am

cyberdad wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

^^^they were only "fair weather friends" anyways, a dime a dozen.

I'm waiting for fleshy AI bots to be my future friend Like holding a conversation with Siri

choose one -
your true soulmate, but only disembodied digitally
or
somebody who will do after a fashion, flesh and blood?

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31 Aug 2019, 2:51 am

Although Siri can be temperamental sometimes :lol:

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31 Aug 2019, 2:52 am

auntblabby wrote:

cyberdad wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

^^^they were only "fair weather friends" anyways, a dime a dozen.

I'm waiting for fleshy AI bots to be my future friend Like holding a conversation with Siri

choose one -
your true soulmate, but only disembodied digitally
or
somebody who will do after a fashion, flesh and blood?

For me a digital AI bot is my choice, I prefer logic to listening to somebody talk about how great they are...

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31 Aug 2019, 3:40 am

cyberdad wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

cyberdad wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

^^^they were only "fair weather friends" anyways, a dime a dozen.

I'm waiting for fleshy AI bots to be my future friend Like holding a conversation with Siri

choose one -
your true soulmate, but only disembodied digitally
or
somebody who will do after a fashion, flesh and blood?

For me a digital AI bot is my choice, I prefer logic to listening to somebody talk about how great they are...

so a digital AI bot would be your soulmate then?

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31 Aug 2019, 6:02 am

Why not...Unfortunately the technology won't be developed before I die but in the future AI will be able to reciprocate conversation and of course real life "cushioning" would be a pleasant addition

Japan looks like they are ahead in this latter development
https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/8286324/s ... ate-japan/

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31 Aug 2019, 6:45 am

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Why not...Unfortunately the technology won't be developed before I die but in the future AI will be able to reciprocate conversation and of course real life "cushioning" would be a pleasant addition

Japan looks like they are ahead in this latter development
https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/8286324/s ... ate-japan/

better go to the gym first as those things are HEAVY and BULKY.

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