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21 Dec 2009, 11:08 pm

Sometimes complainers need to be squashed, and should be.

Family member who shall remain nameless has gotten to the point where if their lips are moving they are giving a high-definition full-color play by play with slow motion instant replays of all their health problems.
Again.

This is sore. That hurts. This is swollen. This is too red. I have heartburn. That joint doesn't sound right. My stools are loose. The contents of my stomach slop three degrees to the left when a semi truck drives down the street headed east at sunset.
And on.
And on.
And on.
And on.
And on.
And on.
And on.

I finally said to them, you know why it sounds like I don't care - I don't. I'm burned out by the endless flood.

Apparently in being the family mental patient I'm the only one who had the balls to come out and say so. Or was reckless enough to just not give a damn about the effects on our relationship. :twisted:

Ohhh baby, that person does NOT like me right now.

But they have ceased to burden the conversation with all of that.

Mission accomplished. :thumright:

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21 Dec 2009, 11:29 pm

Sometimes that's what it takes.

:lol:

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22 Dec 2009, 12:11 am

:thumright:

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22 Dec 2009, 8:41 am

Good on you.

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22 Dec 2009, 8:49 am

I once had an idea for a short story on this subject. Two people sharing a meal in a B&B (a man and a woman) and they were competing with each other about how bad their illnesses were. Eventually, the man collapses with a heart attack and the landlady says: "Well, at least we have a winner now!"

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22 Dec 2009, 8:53 am

You know there are tactful ways to tell someone to STFU. :roll:

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22 Dec 2009, 11:08 am

Oregon wrote:

You know there are tactful ways to tell someone to STFU. :roll:

Yes, but they're not as enjoyable :lol:

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22 Dec 2009, 12:27 pm

And they don't always work.
For a thousand reasons.

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22 Dec 2009, 3:01 pm

I just think it's a bit ironic for an Aspie to tell someone off about their obsessive behavior. After all this is a on-line forum where people go on and on about their medical problem. :roll:

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22 Dec 2009, 7:29 pm

It is ironic. Could be hypocritical even depending on the speakers.

What happens here is cyclical pattern - the one's conversation is varied then gradually devolves into what appears to maybe be some kind of obsessive thing.
Takes about 8 months a cycle.

Who knows, I may be guilty of similar on some matter.

It is mainly that it reaches the point of "Okay, okay, we got it the 14th time you said it."

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22 Dec 2009, 7:32 pm

EnglishInvader wrote:

Ha - I have a friend that every time you tell her something that's going on in your life she tries to 'one-up' you. I always want to tell her 'It's not a competition!'

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24 Dec 2009, 4:25 pm

southwestforests wrote:

Ohhh baby, that person does NOT like me right now.

But they have ceased to burden the conversation with all of that.

Mission accomplished. :thumright:

Good for you - some people just don't realise how much they b***h. More to the point, they don't realise how much their incessant b***hing drains other around them. We all have problem (look at us) but most of us just get on with it.

The fact that the family member does not like you right now is a good thing - at least they will think twice before they talk to you again!

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24 Dec 2009, 6:18 pm

AspiRob wrote:

...they don't realise how much their incessant b***hing drains other around them.

You just scored a 500 point hit in the the Bullseye.

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24 Dec 2009, 10:41 pm

southwestforests wrote:

AspiRob wrote:

...they don't realise how much their incessant b***hing drains other around them.

You just scored a 500 point hit in the the Bullseye.

Thank you.

The scary part is how many people do just this. You walk up and say hello to them and then before you know what is happening, you are privy to every possible drama in their little world. OK - I appreciate I have problems with empathy but at some stage I really just don't care.

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26 Dec 2009, 9:25 am

Oregon wrote:

I just think it's a bit ironic for an Aspie to tell someone off about their obsessive behavior. After all this is a on-line forum where people go on and on about their medical problem. :roll:

Yeah, but this is the appropriate place to do it!
WrongPlanet.net: The online resource and community for Autism and Asperger's, was made for... *drumroll please*... DISCUSSING AUTISM AND ASPERGERS! *surprised gasp*

Now, it is certainly inappropriate to constantly discuss every aspect of ASD, all the time, everywhere. But here, it's perfectly fine.
Just as it is very inappropriate for a family member to constantly complain about her physical woes every time she opens her mouth.

There is a time and place for everything, and by what the OP is saying, the family member was certainly not in the right time and place. :roll:

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24 Feb 2010, 1:33 am

Bwahaha, being mental does give you special priviledges doesn't it.
One of my favorite Oscar Wilde quotes: "if you are going to tell people the truth make them laugh or they'll kill you".
Works for me.

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