Talked to 2 women at a club

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1st time ever Talking to ladies at a club

OK, I don't know what I'm doing or did ... I mean
I didn't know what I was doing but I went out to
a dance club with my friend and we sat down
and there were 3 women sitting next to me. I
looked around for a while I guess and talked to
my friend and his friend and his friend's wife was
there too. Then I played with lasers, familiar with
the club and where the beams would go and what
was reflective and I moved them to the beat of
the music. I wasn't in the mood to dance because
I was on a break from thinking about technical
things when I left. But I have a habit of moving
my fingers like an equalizer since way before I
could relax enough to ever dance. And I had
lasers so I was making audiovisual patterns
with them at times instead of dancing.
The women next to me were in the range of
21 to 40, I really can't guess accurately but I'd
say maybe 21 to 25 or 30, lets say 25. The two
closest ones were 10s on the 1to10 scale and
the third one was slightly overweight and I can't
enumerate. She also looked maybe 25 but very
different from the other two. She was typing a
lot on her phone and that was interesting for
some reason to me. Well I didn't know anything
else except suddenly I had the idea to talk to the
ladies and no other intention but to do that, and
nothing yet entered my mind to talk about except
what kind of texting she was doing (such as maybe
Twitter, which I have not done before). A few things
came to mind that would not otherwise have unless
I was currently interested in talking to women. So
this opportunity was unexpected and I recalled a
few things NVL related to talking. I think I leaned
toward the closest one and said Hi my name is/
Whats Yours/ and this is my friend/ and I was just
wondering if she was Twittering or what else she
can do on her phone. She looked and talked to
the one that was doing something on the phone
and came back and said IMing. I guess AOL, MSN,
and such flashed in my mind but I didn't know
what else to say in response to that but maybe
Oh, OK. And the conversation continued I'm not
sure what about but soon about the music and
it was 80s music and my friend and I had more
records than the DJ. This was dumb but I was
aware of trying to send a message that we were
not trying to pick them up just talk. And I didn't
really know where I was going except with the
flow of conversation which started just getting
weird like that because whatever I was saying
was like being in a car that was moving but not
being steered. At some point the 3 women got
up and left but not because of anything offensive
but the music was loud and I guess there was no
point in just talking, it wasn't why they were there.
But that was all I was prepared to do and even if
they wanted to leave with me, it wasn't even an
option for me this time. So, I talked to one about
another's phone, and other stuff, and the woman
in the middle didn't get involved at all before they
left. I maybe was just weird for just talking but
I don't think I was too far off on the NVL but I wasn't
really paying attention to my NVL so I am not
sure. I guess except for the unintended effect of
them leaving, conversation happened enough to
be considered a success for a conversation,
even if it was random and without any other
purpose.
Sometime after when a good song was played
I was making the laser beams dance to it, and if that
sounds weird, not so much because there was
someone else there also doing that, and it is not
unusual for laser audiovisualizations in clubs. That's
when another lady, now I can neither enumerate
nor guess her age but somewhere between 40 and 55
I guess. She could have been 60, but she was dancing
with her friend. OK, I'll guess she was 50-55. Her
friend looked 45-50 I guess. She reached for the
laser beams and held up something reflective and
waved at me. And I walked to the dance floor, not
dancing though... I just forgot to I guess, and she
said she likes the lasers. She said she was a French
teacher and was from France but lived here awhile
and learned English when she came to America.
Well I'm not very good at French at all but dug up
some words, maybe 10 french words and tried to
make some use of them. But remember still, this
is in the club on the edge of the dance floor and
LOUD MUSIC. But she spoke enough English, I
just tend to try to learn languages when I have
an opportunity and I think I said "non parle vous
Francais" and something else starting with "est",
it is ... whatever it was I could say. And the
reflective things she was holding up were unusual
things to have, laminated pictures of people who
are famous in France and one was someone who
is also famous in America. These were people she
admired or idolized I guess. We talked about French
music but I didn't know any French musicians
except Daft Punk, but had heard other french music on
the radio (and it just so happens that music in other
languages was of intense interest to me as a child
because it was beautiful and I couldn't understand
it, which made me think it was about such wonderful
things I never imagined or heard of then). Well, I
think this woman is someone who could be a friend
or acquaintance, but we are both way outside the
box, yet seems like we could easily get along as
friends. I also think there is another dynamic for
me with people who speak other languages, since
it is a special interest, but not only, because there
is an attractive need to speak constantly in order
to exchange new words. I also think that
strangeness of personality is overshadowed by
that. I suppose for attraction to women in terms
of beauty, Asian women would be interesting to
befriend to learn Asian languages and I think maybe
Chinese may be a plus because it requires
non-monotone speech because there are four
levels of tone that change meanings of single
words. Asian people also seem outstandingly
and very similarly attractive to me and there are
BILLIONS of them.
But OK, I am still very inexperienced and not
knowing what more than socialization in general
and friendly companionship I will find in this
nebulous sudden interest in socializing with many
people and also with members of the opposite
sex. <<< I am not making the same fauxpas that
someone else did implying people and women
are two different beings, because what I mean is
to socialize with lots of people and to socialize
with some women, which is different from the
ridiculous idea of having sex with everyone.
How did I type so much just because I talked
to two women in a club for the first time ever?
Also, if anything I said seems offensive its only
because it is extrapolated from a new experience
for me of talking to two women in a club for the
first time, so I plead social idiocy. I probably made
a fool of myself, but just happy I tried even though
the results were bizarre. Also the results are
consistent with affinity and greater ease for me
communicating with older people in general.
It is what it is. If anyone has any feedback as to
exactly what happened from other points of
view then well sure I'd like to know what I was
apparently doing so I don't wander all over the
place like a lost social idiot for too long.

But if the blind lead the blind, they all fall down.

Not too shy to talk, anymore, though, I guess.