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i have to ask did anyone else go through the their 20's and feel hopeless depressed and like life was pointless. it seems that those born before me have unrealistic veiws of the future and i wan't to know if there really is a light at the end of the tunnel

I've been in my 20s for 5 months now, and I'm certainly not off to a good start.

Life is more of a subway line than a tunnel, at times it gets bright, then dark, then bright and then dark again.

When you are "inbetween stations", focus your life on something that gives you happyness.

It was bad, yes. Late twenties were a bit better. I don't want anyone to feel completely hopeless.

It got better as it went along. I'm not sure why, but it did. Maybe because it couldn't get any worse than how it started.

No, I enjoyed my 20s more than my teens......the parental controls were at last getting thrown off, work was at least better than school, I had money of my own, I'd just got my first serious girlfriend and that lasted for many years, I achieved a peak of success with the band I was in. Towards the end of my 20s I was doing very well socially, and we had some great times using recreational drugs in a (relatively) responsible way. I never felt more included and successful in my life.

My 20s were difficult but not hopeless. It seems that about the time I hit 40 is when the hopelessness really set in.

I'm 23 and fell like I am actually 14. People always acuse me for a teenager because I look so young (I assume it's from never touching drugs and being so active when I actualy was a teen) and I am not complaning.

20's were OK, looking back I can see where the AS definitely effected my life. But by 30 it was ruining my life, but I didn't know that I had AS yet and thought I was either nuts, weird, or it was everyone else fault.

My 20s were ok, but there were bouts of depression that were difficult. AS was definitely a major player in everything I did. My biggest mistake in my 20s was devastating my career - that's still kind of depressing.

Late 20s were better. Late teens and early 20s nearly killed me.

I think the 20s are tough because you've finished school and are supposed to be starting out in life, but it's hard to find a job or even to figure out what kind of work you could stand to do. Especially if you've done well in college there's this expectation that your future is bright, but in reality no one wants to hire a kid with no skills, no matter how smart.

But somehow we all find our place, whatever it may be, and it's a lot easier in my opinion to be 40 than 20. So hang in there.

Hmmnnn, My whole life has been like a roller coaster ride I was locked on and I never really learned to enjoy the fear and scream with the rest.
Lately life has been on the up, new city, new job, new habits - but it was less than a year ago I was homeless and tried to kill myself.

Learn to scream.

peace j

Things fell apart, the year that I was 23. It was the worse feeling. My mum didn't help matters, throwing the insults, at me. Things got better for me, last year.

Don't get me started on my mom...ugh.

Ever since the AS diagnosis I have been a lot happier since things in my past are so much easier to understand now. I finally get why middle school was so hellish and why high school sucked.

I also learned a good bit about the nature NT society. The observations are not pretty but you simply work your way around them.

PrussianWolf,

What exactly has got you down? Ultimately we all have to find motivators in our lives for why we work.

We have what we tell others is our motivation and then we have our true motivations, which are usually shallow and trivial but run very deep.

There is no shortage of people out there who simply work to feed addictions, hedonism, or a video game habit.

Life is just a game that you need to learn the rules for and navigate around them.

same for me.
most of the first 5 years in my 20's were very dark for me, but over the last couple of years. . .somehow things got better for me.
i still have my bad days, but it has gotten better.