The language of interaction

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You may know a language (say Finnish) enough to talk to a Finn, but if for this you have to keep in your bag a dictionary (or to search in your mind for the right word), if you are not fluent in reading in others' mind you only are brought to fake some competence you don't possess. You become an actor, you cannot really be sincere.

What exactly are you trying to say? That even if we learn how to interact socially, it is always fake because it isn't natural?

You can be sincere [fluency does not guarantee sincerity]. What you cannot be sure of is having your sincerity correctly interpreted.

If you come from Podunk and on greeting you I shake hands and smile, I am faking/ acting the contact and expression. But I may still be sincerely happy to see you.

When a Yank NT greets me with a handshake ans ssmile - how glad is he REALLY to see me?