Trouble making neighbors

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I recently came home from spending time with a friend which was a great time and being excited about some activities that I am going to do. So, I came home and went to play with my favorite cats and one of the neighbors came out and confronted me about an issue. He said that one of the other neighbors accused me of telling people their personal information about issues in their relationship and some other things. His roommate/ partner was evidently hot headed and didn't come out because he was mad at me.

How can I handle this type of drama because I will not be taken for a ride?

Okay, you've been accused of gossiping about the neighbors. Did you, even in passing? Sometimes a throw-away comment -- "Gee, I could hardly get to sleep last night for the noise. Joe and Bill were fighting again." -- can be blown all out of proportion.

I know what you mean. Some time ago this kid walked out in front of my car as I was leaving for work. He had this big grin on his face, and I revved my engine a couple of times. I gave him time to get out of the way, went on to work, and forgot about the whole thing.

Some days later this du0d with a mullet shows up in my driveway wondering "what the hell" I thought I was doing. The guy was pissed and itchin' for a fight and, in spite of it all, I had a hard time keeping myself from laughing. So I did my typical psychological tricks to defuse the situation, which was the opposite of what he expected, and he walked away all confused because now we're such good friends (even though we haven't spoken since). I didn't owe the guy an apology, but there was no harm in it, and everyone walks away happy (if a bit weirded out).

So time passes. So my wife leaves to go on an errand, and the SAME KID has left his bicycle in the middle of the road. She has to actually get out of the car to move it because she can't get around it otherwise. And the kid is watching her the whole time. I think the kid was trying to set someone up to run over his bike because he knew daddy would hurt them or something.

More time passes and a new family moves into the neighborhood. The kid is over at this persons house playing with their children when, all-of-a-sudden, he punches one of the kids in the stomach, and I mean HARD. So the mother goes to the kid's house and confronts the child's mother, and all he says is "I was just playin'." I'm not sure what his punishment was or IF he got any at all. It DOES do my heart good to know that this trouble-maker situation isn't just in MY head.

A week or two after that we notice a moving van backed up to their trailer, which stays there a couple of days. We ask our new neighbor what she knows. Apparently the woman who used to live there MOVED OUT and took the kids with her. Then we learned that the kid in question WASN'T EVEN HIS!! ! So I sit back and reflect upon this minor bit of poetic justice.

I say this: If you haven't done anything wrong, you have nothing to explain. Ignore 'em and try you best not to let it get to you. Avoid the hot-headed neighbor and the "12-year-old" and much of the situation will work itself out.

I honestly think that the hot headed gay couple are trouble makers because they seem to hate everyone on the association board in the complex. It always seems to be their faults and never their own. As for the young 27 year old, who happens to be my age I bet she is part of the trouble for stirring something up like that, the neighbor who is a hot head probably blew it bigger than it needed to be.

I wonder if they were trying to scare me away from their breezeway because I go over their and play with two Farrell cats that are quite friendly.

Honestly though, when I first saw the hot headed one, we were going to paint my condo and he was sitting across the street and tanning himself because the weather was warm and he kept staring whenever I went outside. I have to say that he seemed like a jerky type but I wasn't sure either.

Finally, these two seem to change their stories about the other people on the association and how they have problems with them along act sketchy about the whole thing.

I thought you meant you were having trouble making a neighbor. If you have a trouble making neighbor, just say "I have no idea what you are talking about and where did you hear that?" (But if you did say something, deny for now and start clamming up about other people's business.) My own big mouth always gets me in trouble - especially when I'm trying hard to be NT...being someone I'm clearly not. A real NT has the built in defenses when they are caught gossiping. We aspies do not.