An obligitory social event

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A friend's daughters (2) have had babies in the past year. Today is an event to meet them and family and other people. I do not particularly like babies especially other peoples an willing to meet family but find large gatherings are not the place for it. Do not want to go - do not want to go with an attitude which will make it worse. Just a quick rant here this friend really wants us to come but in truth would not miss us if we were not there.

I have to go to a baby shower tomorrow and I am not looking forward to it. Not crazy about the hour drive and not knowing where I am going (thank goodness for GPS!) Then having to have small talk with a lot of people I only see at weddings, funerals and the occasional baby shower.

Typically, I get very anxious up till the day and once I get there, I can almost have a good time but still look forward to it being over and getting back home.

I know how you are feeling!

I bailed. I really did not want to go. In the past I would often have forced my self and had a miserable couple of hours counting the minutes until I could suggest that we leave. In stead my wife and her friend went without me and I am happily alone left to my own devices...
there may be a bit of residual - fallout but it will be easy to deflect

good decision. One can always write a sincere and polite note appropriate to the situation. I hope you did have peaceful interlude ( instead of stress ). This reminded me I have to send an rsvp for a similar event. Most people in my family stopped inviting me to stuff, but it still happens occasionally.

I see it as a basic Aspie right that obligatory social events do not apply to us. If I wanted somebody to come to an event I was going to, I would use a light touch in encouraging them, and if they were clearly unhappy about attending then I would reassure them that it was OK. Anything less would be social ineptitude, in my book.