Being angry at someone in a healthy way

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Hi,
I had recently discovered that someone who does not like me very much but would not admit it to my face. Instead, they talked to me until someone better came along and I just rejected. They the rubbed the situation on ,my face which touches my buttons. I feel like wanting to call them up and yell but I know it won't help. I had also told them how I felt for being two faced and for rubbing things in my face.

How do I release my anger in a healthy way without hurting someone and then gradually let them go?

Writing a letter with everything you have wanted to say to the person--and NOT sending it--is a good idea. It's also helpful to take a look at it later in a few months when you're less angry and see if you still feel the same way. Odds are the anger will have significantly diminished and you may even have a more objective view of the situation by then.

You could even add a little to the letter each day like a diary as long as you don't get obsessive-compulsive about it. (I have that problem sometimes.) Best of luck.

i feel angry at someone right now and it does not feel healthy

i don't think writing a letter about it would help me. i always feel that words somehow fail to accurately capture strong emotions. and i'm rubbish at explaining myself. it's horrible when you know you have valid points but can't express them and the other person ends up overbearing you with their side of things, and taking your silence as confirmation of their viewpoint.

sorry, bit ranty, not much help. gah