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Aharon
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31 Dec 2011, 3:23 am

What do you call it when a person doesn't have the slightest amount of tolerance for negative emotion? When person A is feeling grumpy and displays grumpiness for 1 second and person B gets angry about it and goes on and on for ever about it until person A caves in and begs for forgiveness for being a jerk and even then B goes on and on, what is that?


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31 Dec 2011, 6:59 am

Narcissism? Borderline Personality Disorder?



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31 Dec 2011, 9:11 am

Doesn't have to be a condition or disorder.

Straightforward immaturity is also another possibility, or maybe a temporary hormonal thing like PMT or adolescence.

Oversensitivity due to something else going on in their head? Any reason the person could be feeling vulnerable or rejected?



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31 Dec 2011, 3:25 pm

Life. A lot of people go around suppressing every negative emotion-- or trying to (and failing, and berating themselves for it), thinking they should.

So when you let one show, they really let you have it.

That's life. I think it's sick-- I wonder why we don't all agree to stop playing this game we all, once upon a time, agreed to start playing-- but it's real. We're not going to stop any time soon.


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08 Jan 2012, 6:05 am

It's called denial of reality.

Life is a mix of both positive and negative emotion.
Someone who attempts to block out all negativity is just as much in denial of reality as someone who is perpetually negative and twists any positive into something negative.


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08 Jan 2012, 3:49 pm

Aharon wrote:
What do you call it when a person doesn't have the slightest amount of tolerance for negative emotion? When person A is feeling grumpy and displays grumpiness for 1 second and person B gets angry about it and goes on and on for ever about it until person A caves in and begs for forgiveness for being a jerk and even then B goes on and on, what is that?



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20 Jan 2012, 3:27 pm

I agree that it need not have a clinical label. If this is an important enough relationship, you could ask the person what they end up feeling when you exhibit a specific feeling. For example, if person B can admit that they feel scared when you show anger, it might help diffuse the situation if you are able to let the person know that you aren't angry at them, are not going to lash out or attack etc.

At the very least, you may gain a bit of insight into what is going on inside the other person.