I wish I had known this sooner. I have tried to think back, but I am pretty sure we didn't have problems until he reached junior high, and even then, we thought he didn't want to get up because he didn't want to go to school.
It wasn't until some time in high school that during the summers his sleep cycle would change. We always thought that he needed more sleep than most people, but I thought that was because he needed the extra rest in order to handle the pressures he felt when he was awake. We figured that he was so much more relaxed during the summer because he didn't have to deal with the social issues, not because he was sleeping at the right times for him. I still think that not having the pressure of school did contribute to his calmness during the summer, but I can't ignore the fact that now he can handle social stress so much better. He even willingly puts himself into situations he would have resisted before.
As he aged, I always saw that he was learning how to act without anyone telling him. He learned to make eye contact on his own, and he continually adjusted his behavior to appear NT. In some respects, the fact that he can't stand drawing attention to himself was probably his greater motivator in trying to appear NT, even though he didn't know he was autistic. He just didn't want to be seen as different.
So I don't know how much of his ability to adapt is due his sleep changes or to his ability to adapt.
That 3 hour wave thing is odd. I can't imagine feeling rested after 3 hours, but then I wonder if it is because after than you enter another phase of the sleep cycle and if you get woken up in the middle of that, that is worse. I know if I wake up naturally and then go back to sleep, it is harder to get up later.
I found this article:
http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifeha ... cycle.html
In this article, Glen Rhodes talks about the sleep cycle that he tried to use on his sleeping pattern. He now sleeps 3 hours a night and power nap for 90 minutes in the evening. He found out this is far better than getting a 8 hours of sleep. There are some researches behind it. For instance Glen referenced a study from Applied Cognitive Studies:
“Studies show that the length of sleep is not what causes us to be refreshed upon waking. The key factor is the number of complete sleep cycles we enjoy. Each sleep cycle contains five distinct phases, which exhibit different brain- wave patterns. For our purposes, it suffices to say that one sleep cycle lasts an average of 90 minutes: 65 minutes of normal, or non-REM (rapid eye movement), sleep; 20 minutes of REM sleep (in which we dream); and a final 5 minutes of non-REM sleep. The REM sleep phases are shorter during earlier cycles (less than 20 minutes) and longer during later ones (more than 20 minutes). If we were to sleep completely naturally, with no alarm clocks or other sleep disturbances, we would wake up, on the average, after a multiple of 90 minutes–for example, after 4 1/2 hours, 6 hours, 7 1/2 hours, or 9 hours, but not after 7 or 8 hours, which are not multiples of 90 minutes. In the period between cycles we are not actually sleeping: it is a sort of twilight zone from which, if we are not disturbed (by light, cold, a full bladder, noise), we move into another 90-minute cycle. A person who sleeps only four cycles (6 hours) will feel more rested than someone who has slept for 8 to 10 hours but who has not been allowed to complete any one cycle because of being awakened before it was completed…. ”
So Burnbridge, it sounds like you are completely NT in this regard.
The wiki page says that odd sleep cycles are caused by genetic abnormalities, but doesn't relate it to autism.