Did you ever learn that living independently was tough?

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Hi:
I had wanted to know if any of you at one time in your life looked forward to moving out on your own and discovering that the grass was not always greener on the other side of the fence. However, when you got there, did you learn that living on your own wasn't as easy as you thought?

I know it was not for me. So please check out the video below and respond below.


http://youtu.be/ri2AyL3zQCA

In response, how many of you in here actually struggled with the same scenario?

I can't do roommates at all.
The only "roommate" I'll have is a fluffy one that walks on 4 legs.
It's also a reason that I don't want a romantic relationship.

I feel the same way about roommate situations myself. After what had happened, I decided that once I had gotten the chance, I would have my own space.

As for the other stuff as far as responsibility went, the one who grew overly frustrated with my circumstances did not bother to help me transition. Instead, she appeared to make things worse. In another video that I made and is yet to be posted, I will talk more in depth about her.

i'm sorry i couldn't watch your whole video just because of where i'm at in my own head today.

but yes i've always had problems living with people. ALWAYS. ranging from just not getting along to real nastiness to assault.

living independently IS hard. i am about to become homeless and i am starting to think it's because i just expect myself to handle things "normal" people handle and i can't. i don't want to give up total control, but i need help. if i can get to this women's shelter i'm hoping they can help me find the right kind of resources. i'm sure there's "shades of grey" between someone having total conservatorship and you being completely alone.

There was one year I had two roommates. One younger, and one older. I went in on it because I thought it would be better to share costs. Also we knew each other from church so I thought it couldn't be that bad.

It was chaotic. I had a hard time dealing with their seemingly random actions that they thought were normal, and I could barely cope with. The older guy was really flaky, and had a hard time coming through, or not being lazy with things. The other would do his own thing, even getting a dog while we all roomed together. We could never agreed on how we would share space, so sometimes depending on what it was, it just wouldn't be there, having been used up by one of the roommates. The lazy guy monopolized fridge & freezer space. I ended up getting my own chest freezer to hold things. Stuff like that.

I now live by myself. I struggle with other things, but not with strange people, I can't make any sense out of.

At the current, I'm living with a really nice couple...that are complete slobs. They have an annoying untrained rabbit, that ruins everything and s**ts everywhere. They don't wash dishes until they have exhausted literally every possible container for food and they let the trash pile up. It's the worst.

I've never lived in an apartment independently, but I'm sure it would be less stressful than living here. Roommates suck.

I met both of my roommates via local paper classifieds section. I wanted to move out because my parents being somewhat abusive. My mother also struggled with a mental illness next to appearing to be rather cold.

So anyway, it was during the meet and greet that I thought the girl showing the place would be my best friend. I also thought she appeared to be nice while my mom thought otherwise that she seemed phony to her. Yet, she did not bother to tell me and said that she seemed like a nice person. When I moved in, I was quickly disappointed to find out that this roommate could be such a jerk.

She had a bad temper and would yell at me for a half an hour in a condescending manner next to whining about how things were not her merry old way. She also was a major bully to where I felt like I could not be in the same room with her and that I had to always be in my room or away from her when she was home. I also stayed out late until she was well asleep.

I never wanted room mates. I knew they could play loud music or be too loud, make messes and I didn't want to deal with it and gave them be in my space based on my own experience with my brothers so I thought room mates could be the same too. I just didn't want to gamble.

one thing i will say. having a LOT of space helps. assuming you don't just get an as*hole for a roomie, having a lot of space helps me keep from getting overstimulated and getting my down-time and alone time. sometimes just having someone in the next room feels like they are sitting in my lap! ideally being in a split-level building works best for me.

This is another blog that I recently worked on based on the results of me living with the two roommates. So here are the results of not telling them that I have Autism.

http://youtu.be/5qTGyDF8Ilc

It may not be infallible, but I've never had bad luck with roommates in a vegetarian-only place, and I've had dozens.

I have to move at the end of the month, again, and I haven't even been able to start looking for place.
I'm hoping that I'll be able to get myself to do so now that I have my car back and enough cash to eat this weekend.
Still no weed, so I'm still having trouble sleeping regularly and breaking out of my current obsessions to get productive stuff done, but hopefully I'll be able to find a place before the month is over.
I don't want to go back to motels/extended stays, even though the extended stay is really nice it's way far north & east of wher I want to live, and it's really expensive and if I could afford to stay there I could afford a security deposit on an apartment and I wouldn't have to look for another room to rent like I currently have to.

I HATE living with other people, and they generally feel the same about me, so I really hope the project I might get on Sunday works out, because if it does I can finally get on my feet and stop living day to day, paycheck to paycheck, always wondering where the next one's coming from, and I can live alone again and not have to deal with other people in my living environment.

Ye gods I miss that.

I live on my own. I have been very fortunate. I'm in college, work part time, and as long as I'm working, I do not have to pay for my home. I will have to move out in one year, but until then I have a rather large place just for me.