delayed responses to things

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Does anyone experience subconsacious reations to things. An example would be that my regular pharmacy was changed and I thought that i'd adjusted well but I ended up disputing/arguing with the pharmacist at the new chemist. I hate conflict and always end up shaking afterwards from the fear.Even now im distressed/angry/frustrated one or all not sure which. It just felt like one change too many for me to handle.

Apologies that I keep making these obsessive slef oriented threads that noone can relate to or comment on. Ive resolved that if my diagnosis on the 23rd turns up negative im going to accept it and move on for my sanity,

Definitely. For me I'm not afraid of conflict, I just rather get it out in the open and done with. There are a few people in my life that just like to keep a conflict going, passive-aggressively, thereby hoping to wear me down and get me to be submissive or whatever. I end up thinking to myself everytime they make another passive agressive comment that I'm going to snap at the next one and sure enough, I do, then they get all the conflict they never wanted, all at once. They know how to push me to that point, yet they still keep doing it, even though they get very uncomfortable in the presence of my wrath. I wish that this person would learn faster. I fully believe in the fact that we train others in how to treat us. FIgure out the responses you want and the behaviors you must exhibit to get them, and then, yeah, it will work! And this isn't a neurotypical thing, you gotta analyze people, your behavior, really take an honest look at what YOU want out of the encounter and modify your behavior to get those results.

Am I oversimplifying? Perhaps, but it's working for me.

I can sometimes subconsciously react to things without consciously realizing it. I also sometimes think I'm OK with a change only to have a strong negative reaction seemly out of nowhere a while after the change has taken place.

I liken it to having to try out a new arrangement before I can totally determine if I like it. I've tried to learn to not give feedback on something new upfront, rather giving it a "test drive" before I make judgement. This can drive some others in my life nuts as they want an answer up front and my response to them is "we'll see" or "I don't know yet".

All the time, but I think it's just that I don't understand my triggers yet, I'm still learning since having a professional diagnosis. Be a detective, you will find over time that these things can make more sense and you will know when to walk away or take a moment. That's what I'm hoping anyway. What doesn't help though, is that on one day an event (change, whatever) won't bother me and on another it will be like the end of the world. More insight is needed about this.

I defiantly have delayed reactions both to positive and negative events. The delay could be a few hours or a few days or more. A lot of times when people are "moving on" or have "moved on" I am first starting to react. I think it is because I automatically repress my feelings after decades of repressing my feelings in order to fit or not be inappropriate. I know this is not good and am working on letting myself be me.

As far as learning my triggers this site has been great. A lot of epiphany's. The period just after diagnosis can be an emotional roller coaster with joy, relief, fear, sadness all happening at once

Hope this helps

I consciously delay my responses when I can. Often, (always), when I say the first thing that comes to mind; its the wrong thing to say.

It's usually best to stop, think 'What would an NT person say', and then say that instead.

It's not good for me either: yes, happens all the time, and, when I don't delay it (consciously or subconsciously) usually goes even worse.