Fundie Uncle probably thinks im gay

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Yep so i've been wondering why my uncle seemed "off" with me. Here is the evidence I have collated which indicates that he may think im gay:

I have had no relationships
Talk alot
Love cooking and know exactly where everything in Asda is situated
Have an effeminate disposition
Wear rose water as an aftershave which has a thick exotic confectionary smell. Like perfume.
Spend ages getting ready

He is part of the homophobic "I hate fags"generation unfortunately so he'll be edging along walls if he thinks im gay. I may be wrong and he may be annoyed that I did something else. I think I should probably correct that misconception though. Short of leering at women while we're out together what should I do?

I don't understand, why people don't say what they think, but instead start showing signs of despise or discomfort, like they expect that we "get the point" without them saying anything. In your situation, I guess I would wait for a moment when there's just the two of you and bring it up like "Recently I've noticed that you are a little "off" with me. Do you think I'm gay? I'm not." Just like that.

Acting effeminate is enough to make him not like you, if he is someone who believes strongly in traditional gender roles. He doesn't have to think that you are gay. I don't think you should change who you are for anybody.

Tell him it must be sad living with such homophobic beliefs and offer to talk through any issues or questions he has.

What's a fundie? I found out. Wiki is my friend!

My father thought I might be gay when I was 19, and not having success with girls.

It won't matter if your uncle knows you aren't gay. If he believes you "support" LGBT people by not condemning them as much as he does, that is usually enough to earn some scorn. Fundies really dislike anyone who doesn't agree with them.

But, yeah. Just ask him.

Hit on his wife. Or just ask to borrow her, because you need to learn a thing or two. No black eye intended.

^^^ that would be a matter of interpretation. In order to not be gay, you must like the opposite sex. If someone thinks that you are in fact gay, you will need to have intercourse with the opposing sex in order to prove that you are in fact not gay, if of course you are in fact willing to prove your non gayness.. If said uncle believes he is in fact gay, it would only be prudent to offer a subject of the opposite sex, preferrably of his choosing in kind for the subsequent gay subject in order to prove that he is in fact actually gay, or not gay.