Spending Christmas alone out of preference

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Always find this time of the year difficult. NT's seem to want to take pity on me for being alone at this time of year, and can get quite insistent that I should spend the day with them. They really don't understand that being alone is a preference, not because no one has chosen to invite me.

I may feel a little saddened that I am alone, but sitting around a table loaded with food whilst making small talk would be worse. At 71 I tend to be more than a little wary about what I ingest, having a firm belief that the fuel you put into your body has a great deal to do with how well it performs. Try to keep heavily refined foods to a minimum - white flours, sugar and salt.

If anyone else here is spending Christmas day alone, I would like to feel that others can join me on this thread to tell of their experiences on the day.

Hugs Alison

I agree that people taking pity on me for being alone is worse then being alone.

Have an enjoyable alone holiday season doing the things you want to do the way you want to do them.

Mine is not necessarily out of preference but I do enjoy being alone for Christmas or any other holiday. If I were in my country, I would definitely be with my parents and sisters for Christmas and New Year.

Some people enjoy pitying someone like me because that makes them feel good. Well, I pity them for being too narrow-sighted to know that some people have totally different values.

I'm spending Christmas alone. It's better then the alternative, I do like most of my family but its just sensory overload. I will be getting mans best friend soon (and I hope) Santa gets me one for Christmas, but it might be after the holidays. I will be however eating lots of great food, and maybe getting drunk for new years.

Well everyone I live with is going out of state for Christmas...I might end up hanging out with my brother/friends, but maybe not specifically on Christmas. I personally don't really care much about it. I'd be perfectly content to have a few gin and tonics, smoke a little marijuana and listen to music alone...maybe some mushrooms I know people say not to trip alone, but when tripping with others sometimes I miss out on things I want to do cause I end up doing what other people feel like...still music I've wanted to hear tripping I've never gotten around to because of others not having as much interest in hearing it.

It's Christmas eve here in Hawaii now and all is quiet except for the noisy person living in the apartment above me. I will be alone from now until I go to work on Friday morning. It is my preference because I enjoy the solitude. If anyone asks me what I will be doing on these types of occasions, I usually say that I will be going to my brother's house. That way, I can avoid having anyone take pity on me or ask me a lot of questions.

First off, Merry Christmas to all who are into it!

Personally I'm with the OP. This time of year has always seemed like "peer pressure central" to me. One year I hosted a sort of "anti-Xmas" where 3 friends who also don't celebrate Xmas came to my house and we just sort of hung out together for a couple of days, not doing very much apart from escaping from it all together. Another solution of course is to go someplace where Xmas is not celebrated.

For me, it doesn't help that the way Xmas is typically celebrated seems to have little to do with the original intent. Even though I am not a Christian, I have nothing against Jesus and would be happy to join in some kind of event specifically to honor him. As long as people don't go all missionary on me - no innuendo intended
I think I might actually enjoy this kind of thing much more than your typical office Xmas party, of Xmas family reunion.