Trying to Conceive

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I haven't seen any posts about this but please point me to another post if there is. My husband and I have been trying to conceive for awhile and I was wondering if anyone has been having a hard time emotionally with the process. He has Aspergers and I feel a lot of the times that he doesn't want to have children because he "doesn't try" during my fertility window. We have had many discussions on this and he say's he does want them but his "lack" of "actions" is telling me something else. I would just like to hear some other peoples stories and how they have coped with the conceiving issues.

I have the opposite problem. All I have to do is purposely let it happen and it happens.

I see a lot of blame going around here perhaps you and him are not meant to be. If you this upset about him not filling you up properly imagine when he is a distant father.

Also he might have a low sperm count or he is not cumming in you but letting you think he is. I used to trick people that's what I was doing when I knew their whole purpose was kids to be a single mother on welfare lol

Edit: Oh if you really want it to happen you should make the suggestion of he can't do it you all should bring in someone else to the relationship to do the job. You'll be knock up my next month unless of course he has a real low sperm count but it sounds like he just doesn't want to have kids.

But if you want to guilt trip or force the issue then you all are not starting off right. Also infertility is a divorce option at least in my state

Last edited by HisShadowX on 27 Sep 2015, 1:18 am, edited 1 time in total.

try not to pay so much attention to your fertility window. that puts pressure into the situation. just continue to have unprotected sex randomly. if you have unprotected sex for six months and don't get pregnant, you should see a doctor about it. the rhythm method is bad for not getting pregnant, so probably not all that helpful when trying to.

Been through this, go see a fertility specialist. I produce antibodies to my own sperm which means instead of a sprint it's like they are hopping. My wife and I tried for 3 years to no avail and then went to the doctor. We both got tested and were told that IVF was our best option.That whole fertility window thing was hellish, lots of pressure and the intimacy disappeared. Just horrible. IVF was hellish too for my wife and tough going for me too. It didn't work twice. It worked on the third attempt. Thankfully as we had run out of money by then. Now we have twins.

It's another thread entirely about dealing with that!