where do I fit?.

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I was recently diagnosis with aspergers, age 35 after several wrong diagnosis, my question is where do I fit on the spectrum. People with aspie seem to function alot more than I do. I am mute much of the time and struggle with understanding verbal communication or instructions. I have scripts for emergencies. I have poor executive functioning skills and don't go out alone. My balance and spatial awareness issues mean I stumble alot and can't cross roads safely. I have sensory sensitivities just to top it off. Along with blunting and poor emotionally and social skills. I love writing and books and happily spend all day and night reading with my dog next to me. With support is it possible for me to learn some of the skills needs or do I just accept I will never be able to. I have four children, two n.d and it makes me sad if this is going to be their standard of life too. Sorry bit of a random wander into it but any comments, suggestions welcome.

Neuro diverse,instead of n.t Neuro typical.

Thanks for the clarification.

If you care to share more of your situation, you might get some useful feedback here. Who is supporting the family?

At moment I have s, services child protection as I had a break down. This was horrid but does mean we have a support worker who once she realised the problem wasn't just depression was amazing. She had put communication rules in place for professionals, rather than just assuming I got it and just don't want to do it. Or shooting in my face as one did as though it would shock me into replying. I hid under my bed instead. The problem is you can only be on c.p.p for 12 months them support withdrawn or children placed in care. It has taken 9 months to get diagnosis so we running out of time. They all agree I am a loving mum just lacking in a lot of areas. So we either go back to struggling till I break down again or I give up my children which would kill me.

Shouting not shooting luckily.

It helps that you are loving. What about extended family, and the kids' father? Also, where do you live?

My mum and dad chucked me out at 15 because I didn't/couldn't fit in to family view of normal, refuse to talk to me and prevents my sister's helping me as she thinks I will grow out of it if left for long enough. My ex was violent until he left for someone else, not good at relationships. My children are the only thing I have ever got right and have taught me so much. I live in England.

I won't comment on social supports in UK, as I'm sure others are much more knowledgeable. I'm sorry you are going through rough times. Cooperate as well as you can with your caseworker. Good luck!