aspie marrage rate

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I am curious if-well I will be alone-you know like whats the real chance of me or any aspie getting married
I am terrified of my future and the thought of dying alone (something I think may happen)
But seriously-what do you all think

Does living together outside of marriage count?

Tim

yes-all serious relationships

Divorced once, married once (ongoing) and lived with women a few times.

I was in three consecutive long-term relationships. However, I haven't even been on a date in the last 6 months. I think the chance of growing old alone increases when we get older. At least when I was I younger, my quirkiness was thought endearing to my boyfriends. However, now that I am older and not young and cute, my quirkiness is just an undesirable trait to most NTs... If I do live to be a ripe old age, I know that I will be one of those crazy old ladies w/ 100 cats!

those ladies are always so friendly
I was never afraid of them as a small child like other kids
sort of a trait of my sweetness

I don't know anything about what the rate is, but it seems to me that most can and do get married if they want to. All the parents I know with the exception of 1 with Aspie kids are all married, and as most of us know usually one of the parents is Aspie, or at least have Aspie traits. I think it really depends on where you fall on the spectrum. You have to have at least a little bit of social skill to date someone and be able to talk to them. There's no reason why two Aspie people can't fall in love and get married. You are only 18 years old! (yes??) I have faith that you may one day meet a really nice girl who shares some of the same interests as you. I don't think being Aspie means you have to be alone all your life, you just may have to work harder at a relationship since communication is important in any relationship, Aspie or not.

I pray your right

(yes I'm 18)

I am in a long term live-in relationship with a man with three children. We plan to marry soon and have had a difficult time gaining proper access to his three children, but now, at last, they come for weekend and school holiday visits.

I think you have a greater chance of a successful relationship as you get older because as an Aspie you have had more time to learn the peculiarities of the real world and its inhabitants and your chosen partner has the maturity to cope with the Aspie quirks.

The fact that we have had to fight hammer and tooth against his ex and the courts has made us stronger as a unit and closer as a couple. The kids don't know about my diagnosis (yet) because we don't want their mother labelling me as "mad" and using it against us with regards to contact with the children.

I do know of some people who have been very succesful on sites like matchmaker.com

now these people were NT, but there is no reason to think that AS people couldn't find someone

Been in three serious LTR's
(as in living together). One
ended in marriage. 'Tis certainly
possible. Making them last forever
is the hard part - but I don't think
that's just an aspie problem.

I only had one relationship and this ended up in marriage. I was 28 before I finally met someone.

It was probably a more stable relationship at that age anyway (though I can only guess that). My wife is far more understanding of my quirks than my female acquaintances were when I was in my late teens / early 20's. I think if I had had relationships when I was younger they would have probably been quite disastrous.

I've had a couple of long-term relationships with periods of being on my own in between. It wasn't until I was in my 30's that I met my hubby.
You're young Kilroy, (hope that doesn't sound patronising. Everyone's young to me, lol) Anyway, you've got plenty of time, don't worry

Almost all the Aspie kids I know have parents with definite AS traits. (though many of them will deny it) I have three doctors who are Aspies! They are all married. One of the female Aspie doctors has an Aspie husband and Aspie kids. So it happens!

I know of a few Aspies on here that are married. I was almost married twice, but I doubt that counts.