Adult Aspergers and joking as coping mechanism

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Does anyone else use joking as a coping mechanism in social situations with your significant other or family, and become uncomfortable when forced to be serious?

What about strategically creating a conversation about something unimportant to not give time for a potentially uncomfortable subject to be brought up? Almost as if your dodging an uncomfortable conversation while still maintaining the illusion that you're acting normal and happy (as opposed to physically leaving the room to avoid the conversation).

I do.

I have the ability to turn in to a joke everything anyone that I know online says, they kind of make it way too easy. Strangely people offline can't pick up when I am joking around and end up thinking I am serious when I am not and people online don't know when I am being serious cause they assume I am joking all the time.

I don't really do that, and by nature, since I'm often serious, it would be hard for me to turn something into a joke.

Not always, but I can relate to that, yes.

I do

Yup, Often try to use humour ( rather badly! lol) as a way to deal with certain situations as a coping mechanism in that time and moment

I never mean to exactly, but I often grin like a maniac when talking to strangers, though the effect goes with people I am >80% comfortable with, which is basically limited to my mother and elder sister. The smiling feels like instinctive fakery, but it has been called out in the past by my psychologist, who has some professionally awesome people-reading capabilities, and more recently by the specialist who diagnosed me with ASD.
Regarding the latter, she had just made her final statement after taking some time away from me and my parents (trapped there for 5 hours!) and looked like she expected me to say or do something different, but I just sat there with that stupid grin plastered across my face, despite being rather overwhelmed and upset.

Q: What's the difference between a truck full of dead babies and a truck full of bowling balls?

A: You can't unload bowling balls with a pitchfork.



Q: What's the difference between a series of dead baby jokes and a meaningful social interaction?

A: =O
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Yes, yes I do this. I probably do it even more now that I'm a huge fan of stand up comedy. It's the most under appreciated language art.

Don't get me wrong, by default I am a very serious and intense person. However, most of the time most people don't want to have these kinds of conversations all the time. That's why I learned to make jokes. I can vary between intense, deep serious conversation and surprise dark jokes and come off as the insightful quiet type. That's my full aspie battle plan for conversations. It doesn't always work, but it's currently the model with the highest real world success rate. >_>

In my younger days I used lots of sarcasm.
These days I follow Seinfield's idea.
The closer to the comics heart the funnier it is to our audiences.

Sarcasm by the way comes from the same origin of the word sarcophagus - tearing flesh.

i definitely do, and i've become pretty darn good at it. at least the audience seems to enjoy it, ie those in the room. i think i do it because it gives me a mechanism to use my intelligence to create witty remarks that make me feel more comfortable in the room, when I generally feel uncomfortable of course. so it defuses my anxiety, at least temporarily. i guess it's a coping mechanism. and a means of feeling socially accepted?

Absolutely yes.

100% This is me.
I make jokes all of the time to cover my discomfort and anxiety of any given situation. Unfortunately, often they can come seem rude or insulting, particularly to people who do not know me. I am 22 years old and this seems to be getting significantly worse. My friends/family have begun to pick up on it far more frequently in the past year.