Don't know how to be an adult.

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I'm going to be 24 this year and I feel nothing like an adult. I have a part-time job, I go to school, but I still live at home and my parents pay for most of my things. I have only ever had one job and have never been in a relationship and have few friends. I don't know what the future holds for me. Adulthood is not meant for me. I am clueless on pretty much everything that entails being a successful adult. I feel more like a child/adolescent.

You can ask your parents how to do things you don't know how to do. You can ask for more responsibility around the house. Have them give you the money so that you can pay for your things yourself.

Same here! I'm 21, starting my last year at college, yet I still live with my parents and am as dependent on them as when I was a child. The only job I've ever had is being a volunteer guide in a museum. I am quite good at it, but it is an unpaid job, so my parents still pay for everything. And even if I earned my own money, I have never learned to do lists and budgets to go to the supermarket or to cook anything other than pasta, so I don't see myself moving away anytime soon.

I got a bit depressed over it last month, but my mom reassured me that there was not a right time to grow up. She said I was going to get a real job when the time came, and she was not worried about my inability to cook (she claims that it shouldn't be a problem, as I'm very likely to learn that on my own when I decide yo get down to business and just do it). She told me to think of what I'm doing well instead (I have pretty good grades and am finishing my course of studies at the planned time, for instance).

I know it's true that everyone matures at their own time, and I could be doing far worse than this (and so could you) but that doesn't change the fact that I feel like a girl not yet out of high school, and sometimes worry that I will never grow up. If this is what you feel I can totally relate.