Growing up sucks

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I have never had a desire or a drive to grow up, even as a little kid. Life just gets more complicating as we grow. I have no structure or organization. I am a little more than halfway through college, and the classes are getting intense. I have changed my major so many times because I have very few interests. I have no idea what I am going to do with the rest of my life. I've never desired to have kids or get married, I'm not motivated for anything, I have no goals, and I hate forced change. Not only does growing up suck, but you also age and grow old eventually. I just don't no how anyone gets through life. Not all of us have a drive in to achieve something.

The best advice that helped me decide on something when I was your age, since it's a capitalism world - get a skill that you can tolerate because if you have no skills to offer in return for money then you won't be able to get very far or do things you enjoy easily.
Usually if you have a few different skills that accommodate each other it's easier. If you can think of something that's easy enough for you to do and make money out of then just go with that until you find something better.

A friend of mine started out building PCs for people, now he runs his own ebay/amazon business selling parts at a profit from a wholesaler for example.

Work may never be fun but you kinda just have to go along with it otherwise you're gonna be stuck in a boring situation forever.

It only gets worse with age by the way, but you learn to cope with it so it becomes easier so don't worry too much about it.

If you don't want kids or get married then that's completely fine, more men and women are becoming child free these days. You don't have to stress yourself out with all that. If you don't want to achieve something then that's fine but you're probs gonna have to at least make a bit of cash just to live on and to pay for some expenses to enjoy yourself with.

Good luck.

It really does. I've been on 3 gap years, only fully completing one semester of university so far (with flying colours somehow). Which reminds me, does anyone else find that their special interests can be intense but last a short time as well? This has been the most annoying part of being aspie for me, in that even when I find an awesome interest, I never know how long it will capture my attention for. Not so good if you're going for a degree!

I relate to you OP. I never really thought about growing up when I was a kid or teen. I just wanted to be done with school but I struggled in that due to my dyslexia & other related learning disorders. I had no idea what I wanted to do after I graduated high-school except I was sure I did not want to go to college & I never regretted not going. I wanted a job but had no clue what type of job I wanted or could do cuz of my physical disabilities so I applied for most any job I thought I could do. Part of the reason I was trying so hard to look for one was because I was under pressure from my parents. I have worked some & I'm on Social Security Disability now.
I never had a desire for kids & I did not want to get married or have a romantic relationship until my 1st girlfriend told me she liked me when I was 20(we were good friends 1st). I had a desire to get married sense & hated being single after we broke up & after my 2nd girlfriend broke up with me until I got my current girlfriend. We would be married by now but she's disabled & us being married would screw up her SSI & her other benefits; I'm classified as her caretaker cuz she cant handle living alone. I don't think I could handle living alone either & I was pretty dependent on my parents until I moved in with her. I never had many interests & I don't have any goals either.
I don't really have any advice for you. I get by but I would not recommend this approach unless you have a lot of money or get some kinda income form something.