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HelenaPr
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15 Mar 2017, 9:40 pm

Today I had a meltdown. I was going to the movies with friends and SO, and I was really looking forward to it (we were going to watch Logan!). Through the day I felt tired, but still took a shower and changed clothes... And then I felt so overwhelmed, I just called everybody to cancel.
When my mother asked me if I was going out, I started to cry. I felt my routine had been disrupted and going out was too stressful, I couldn't deal with people.
I told my friends I was too busy, so I couldn't make it. I told my boyfriend I just didn't feel like it.
Internally, I felt I needed my normal routine, to stay at home and to stop agreeing with every damn social activity, especially on weekdays (I find I'm more flexible on weekends). But of course I couldn't express any of this to my friends.
So I had a meltdown, and then I felt ever more awful for letting people down. But I don't even know how to express to my friends what really goes through my mind.
So how do you deal with meltdowns? And friends, and life... :lol:



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15 Mar 2017, 9:43 pm

HelenaPr wrote:
Today I had a meltdown. I was going to the movies with friends and SO, and I was really looking forward to it (we were going to watch Logan!). Through the day I felt tired, but still took a shower and changed clothes... And then I felt so overwhelmed, I just called everybody to cancel.
When my mother asked me if I was going out, I started to cry. I felt my routine had been disrupted and going out was too stressful, I couldn't deal with people.
I told my friends I was too busy, so I couldn't make it. I told my boyfriend I just didn't feel like it.
Internally, I felt I needed my normal routine, to stay at home and to stop agreeing with every damn social activity, especially on weekdays (I find I'm more flexible on weekends). But of course I couldn't express any of this to my friends.
So I had a meltdown, and then I felt ever more awful for letting people down. But I don't even know how to express to my friends what really goes through my mind.
So how do you deal with meltdowns? And friends, and life... :lol:


You can just say something like "Thanks for inviting me, weekdays are a bit much for me with my schedule but I'm free on the weekends."



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15 Mar 2017, 9:56 pm

Chronos wrote:
You can just say something like "Thanks for inviting me, weekdays are a bit much for me with my schedule but I'm free on the weekends."


I know, I need to learn to say 'no'!