How to deal with living in a shared flat

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Last year I get kicked out of my flat because the landlord's relative wanted to move in. I had three months to find another place, but I couldn't find anything. My landlord recommended a house (he's friends with the landlord here or something) which is like a shared flat, but as an entire (old) house.
I have my own room, but we share three bathrooms and a kitchen here. I don't really see any of the other 5-7 people, because I'm the first to leave in the morning and when I come back home I go straight to my room which is the first door when you enter the house.
Lately, living here is getting more exhausting and I don't know how to deal with it. Most of the time I'm too scared of going to the kitchen or to the bathroom. The people are nice, but I don't know how to act around them and it makes me unconformable. The other ones living here are very random. They even leave the house for work at the different times every day and the eat at totally different times. I used to eat the same meal on every day of the week but on some days I'm too scared and tired to go to the kitchen and deal with them so I don't eat anything, but at the same time I really hate that I can't have chicken nuggets on Saturdays for example.
The doors are old doors and I can hear everything the other ones are saying or doing. There's a locked door in the wall towards another one's room for some reason. I can even hear the guy next door turning around in bed (the sound of the bed sheets). But I don't want him or anyone to know what I'm doing in my room so I just lay on my bed most of the time and listen to music even though I am very bored and want to do things/have to do things like cleaning. The floors upstairs and the stairs are old and squeak. I've gotten used to all the sounds but at some point it freaks me out and I'm starting to hit my head and bite my hand and scratch my arms and face again. I did that as a kid but it didn't really happen in the past few years.
I'm still looking for flats but there are very few that I can afford and they either don't reply to my messages or don't choose me in the end. (finding a home is very problematic here that's why there are so many shared flats but I can't stand it)
I can't live at my parents' because they live far away (I am doing a 3-year apprenticeship here) and I don't want to go back because they don't like gay people.

Has anyone of you lived in a shared flat or anything similar? Do you have any tips on how to deal with living in a shared home??

I've never really lived alone before. Very briefly once, but not enough to get used to it.
I actually kind of like living with the right group of people. After enough adjustment time, I could get enough interaction with my roommates that I wouldn't go crazy from the isolation, but still have enough isolation that I wasn't overwhelmed by people all the time. The wrong place or group of people can be a nightmare.
I think that it usually takes me about three months to adjust to a new situation (place, person, people, etc.) or in three months I realize that I just won't be able to adjust. I was actually just thinking about this the other day.
So, time, I think is the only thing I could say.