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I feel so blown away and hurt.

2 days ago I had my partner sit me down at the table and ask if we can break up.

I asked why as I assumed all was fine and we not been arguing or anything. He said that while he feels find of me and likes me as a friend he purely thinks that he's fallen out of love with me and it is not fair for me to continue on like everything is ok.

I asked what was wrong and he said nothing is then I demanded to know if there was another woman he swore that there was not and to be honest if there were do I have the right to argue as I cheated on him before.

I then asked if we could talk things out and hope he loves me again bit he said he's been feeling more and more disconnected from me as time went on.

I thought he was just tired when he stopped having sex with me as much and I had to pressure him for what sex I got from him.

He said that he will move out once he finds somewhere to live and said I could either have the house as it's mortgage free but he wants the savings or I could have the savings and he has the house. The savings is about half the house value.

I wish I could fix this at the minute I been spending days in bed he offered to move out but I want him here even if he's not in bed with me so I know he's close. He did shout at me last night as I tried to climb into his bed last night to initiate sex he didn't respond well.

Sorry to hear this bad news.

I am so sorry that you are going through this. Breaking up is difficult to do. At this point, I would make sure you get an agreement on your property and savings that does not screw you over. Be practical about this and protect your interests. You will live with this choice for the rest of your life.

Big hug. Sorry you are going through this.

It's gut wrenching I took time off from work just so I can sit in bee and cry about it.

He's already provided legal documentation which he said he wants me to check with a solicitor and even has paid for me to have time with one.

I would rather we tried to fix things and I asked why he didn't love me anymore but he said he didn't want to fall out of love and he's been trying to fix that.

I don't think he would try and rip me off he has even given me all the savings which is half the house value as we talking around 40k or I can have the house it's up to me.

At the minute we still live together though he won't share a bed with me and he's moved his computer and stuff to the spare room. He still tidies the house and cooks for us though he eats either alone or in silence in the dining room.

I plan on trying to talk to him tonight cause I want answers.

Best of luck aspieprincess and I hope you have support from friends and family where you are.

Sorry to hear. I hope your situation improves.

My deepest sympathies.

Breaking up is torture. The end of a relationship- that's the worst thing in the universe!

I'm so sick of everything.

2 days ago my ex or not it's in the air at the minute said before I went out with my mum that we can talk about things on the night to find a way forward.
I was feeling confident especially as he kissed my cheek but when I came back home my worst nightmare came true.

I found him on the floor in the spare bedroom barely alive he had written several suicide notes saying how he will finally see his daughter and explaining that he cannot cope with living knowing that he could have done more to save her.

The letter he left to me was saying sorry and he did love me but he wanted me angry and hateful of him so that I would move on quicker.

Thankfully we had caught it and got him rushed into hospital he had taken a months worth of anti seizure drugs and he is alive though critical.

I been spending as much time with him but what more can I do even if he survives this what's to stop him trying again. I been thinking and his mum agrees that we need to get urgent mental health help for him.

Oh dear. What a difficult situation! You are a gem. It could be that he may have been suicidal for a while and didn't want to tell you? Yes, stay in touch with his parents and do all you can to keep him safe. I am praying. It is difficult. Oh how I want everything to turn out right.

OH my God. That is awful.

I am so, so sorry to hear that.

Sorry

He's still in hospital but he's now awake I was worried he would never come back and the hospital told us to prepare for that.

He admitted to me and his mum and sister that he has been planning to end his life for quite a long time. Mental health have been informed and we are hoping we can get help for him.

My main worry is that if he's planned this for some time he's not going to accept he failed and not try again.

I'm just grateful he's survived though angry as well and I did snap at him for been selfish especially now as his Liver has suffered damage

Seems like his depression and grief have overwhelmed him for some time.
I really hope that he can receive counselling that will help pull him out of this and that this will be a turning point for the better. Hugs.

The only thing I know to do is pray so I have prayed.

I really hope so too. From what I've read in other posts, he has a seriously hard time coping with his daughter's death. Grief & depression can be very hard things to deal with. Depression medication might be useful as well as the counseling but counseling is essential. I really hope he's receptive to the idea of getting mental help & that he doesn't try to break up with you again aspieprincess. It's great that your working with his parents on trying to get him help. I'm sure having a good support network will be a major help to him even if he doesn't realize it rite now.