Beware of overglamourising autism

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We all found a ways to feel better about us, be it hiding behind intellect, justifying our lack physical performance, focusing on left handedness, but in truth we lack social skills and reactions to danger or perception that others have, it's hard to sometimes recognise it as a disability but it is.

Why I say this is you may be in danger, a little voice or alarm is in your head but you not reacting fast enough to move yourself from harm's way.
Another aspect is on being autistic adult, we lack the ability to understand why society doesn't accept certain things, for example most parents would flip out over child being gay, let alone sign papers for a minor, most people wouldn't accept reasoning for gender changes. This is first sign that disability isn't setting off the alarm. But nope, shouldn't allow such a complex procedure at such young age. But also accepted teen hormones create behaviour but autism or troubled childhood can send a teen off the rails. So don't overreact to long hair, just realise it's a phase and hopefully settle down by 18 which is what we hoping people realise about not sleeping with teen girls in spectrum. There are many boys with long hair, avoid satanic metal but honestly the porn is what upsets me, its reputation.
South Africa just had to accept gay movement, everyone has being faced with this, some of people can be really nice, as many people don't understand problems and judge. Some gays became really successful, not reason to end relationship, may be in for suprise one day!! ! Just recognising autistic teens have lot going on. One person I know is Sean, being molested by stepfather and transformed and many lesbians have being through this, I'm not promoting woke culture I am simply accepting we reacting to life problems, it may be social dynamics that some like weird hair colours as don't really fit in, I try not judge.
But as I've said I went through stages of not liking NT ways of lying or criticising but I know downside of autism and why it's a disability. Promoting girls to have children is concerning knowing this, it's her decision and it's tough one, I've being there!!

As teen I wondered off into the night, in dangerous area, thank my guardian angel.

Later on, there are race tracks that used, sometimes have night races but mostly empty. I don't usually drive fast or furious but some days I had crazy urges to test my limits and I was just going too far, too fast.

Many times I did recognise ADHD or autism in toddlers but dismissed it due to my autism.

Thinking I should say it to child, but keeping quiet. Alarm should've gone off....big hype about touching what dangerous not a gentle explanation.
I think loosing custody is most defeating, no parent wants to go through that. I now watch my kids go through all I did, sometimes its happy but mostly it's sad.

Do you think Asperger's diagnosis was adding glamour to disability?

Just a warning to parents about 'who' to trust and I say this because autistic children won't even tell you they bullied at school so know who friends parents are. Be selective about babysitter, check up. I prefer a group school or creche from day mother just as it is bit safer, assuming.
If you get off feeing, don't dismiss, investigate. There is too much sex abuse or people who just not mindful.

One story was of mom who's child wasn't improving at school, but what she did at home showed her disabled daughter was improving. So she hid camera and luckily want that bad but she found out care givers sat and chatted all day, just left children sitting with no stimulation or effort. So this is one time I think hidden cameras can be used for good.

Be safe, everyone.

What is tossing baby with bathwater, is that abortion.
No I don't approve of abortion, but birth control is effective. Like injection is so effective you shouldn't need to worry or get abortion at college, like, hello, injection is safe!! !

It's her choice at 18, may not need it but if she meets a guy and decides to be active I've taught her how to be safe.

My view is simple conservative,
Whilst I recognise asd as potential for a genius it's also disability. Banning pesticides and regulating industry may prove to assist families who burdened by autism, much more than banning woke culture. It way of being transparent and taking responsibility for endocrine disruptors. I've also got experience trying to change people and it didn't work, I've calmed others in meltdown, not always succesful. So I don't capitalise on suffering of autism, and I'm not discriminating, I'm honest, I suffered myself. Should've negotiated better salary but live, let learn!! !

Elon musk doesn't fully understand most on spectrum battle to hold down jobs or buy dream house. I don't think those living independently afford to eat a carnivore diet or health food is expensive.

Hmmm, I dunno.

I dunno how much of this forum's geographic matches the intent and purpose of this thread -- apparently the factors are being parents, being parents of autistic kids...

Though, the section of this thread is technically appropriate for it I guess...


Sure, it works out with autistics on copium age, if they're almost done with it.

But most of which are either teenagers or prideful types, particular either someone from tiktok, is in copium stages because they don't fully accept their autism for what it is 100%, or is 5+ years out of date related to battling dehumanization through portraying redeeming traits of autistic savants and geniuses.

Personally, I'm past the copium phase since 18 (literally over a decade ago) and almost never cared about any autism representation because nothing resonates with me. At all.

Not even the common experiences of fear and anxiety, social isolation and rejection, all that people pleasing and helplessness associated to autism.
Heck, the association of "emotionlessness" and moral lacking is debunkable.


And the environment... Uhh...
Well, it's not my locale.

From the overall social norms, chemical ingredients, climate which is environment or otherwise, accessibility to services, to whatever system which includes criminal rates and glorified opportunistic traits related to economics, social milestones and capitalism.


Sure, there are plenty naive autistics that just trust and believe things fast, can't defend themselves well and have to keep choosing safe options but...

Too many are caught up in a pendelum of avoidance and cynicism out of lack of discernment and social experience to figure how to get out.

This thread can serve those (likely majority of) autistics...
... But not me. I'm that lucky. I even able to pierce the veil. Multiple times.

And with a completely different personal system in my approach socialization and everything internal...
Which I do not recommend because of how incompatible it can be for most autistics.


I don't know...
Is this PPR or something?
Or something of a more personal opinion piece series thread...

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It's the taboo of disability, and we have no guarantees in life, so remember low functioning can happen to anyone, we need to address it. High functioning can seem like, sure let's go do birds ND bees, but hang on....

Low functioning children attend care facilities, some use nappies. As teens we recognise girls need self care during menstruation.

This is where I bravely stand up for them, I as high functioning had trouble tracking my period, no interest in a diary, the issue was raised about gestation date and I couldn't say when I had my last period, partly as I had PTSD from fights, not keeping track of the date and I was frowned on but honestly if wasn't my fault. I get very busy and in those days I didn't have cell phone to alert me it was time to change tampon (I used cell phone alerts to ensure I fed baby before he cried, if I get busy I forget the world) and aside from birth control there were benefits injection gave me that I am so grateful for. Pads, I'm they move Nd mess anyway and disposing is tricky and neighbours dogs rip up garbage and I felt ashamed, embarassed and if I'd known I'd have started injection at 18.
As a mom and being fair about my disability and how it affects parenting and dealing with my children's disabilities, I love them, really I do and I always put them first but honestly it's too much and I'm often blaming myself, agonising for hours to find solutions. My aim is to educate young girls on parenting with autism so they can decide if they can cope. The day he left for work and I think left sliding door open for air was 'disaster management' as I was fix this, tidy that and I was so busy cleaning up that toddler escaped out door, got his bike and ventured down the driveway. It was my wake up call, and day I started focusing more, forcing myself to pay baby more attention. This isn't to hurt parents rights it's to realise how much adjustment mom has to make to her lifestyle. It is considering best interests of the child!! ! I could write a list about NT parents but this isn't about that, it's not comparison. Another serious issue was I felt family pressured me into settling down and I'm old fashioned and believe in love and I didn't feel sacred bond with my partner and it may made ADHD worse, I wasn't happy. Women need options to wait for mr. Right and these jobs serve to protect sacred bond between mother and child, to help her be best mom she can.

Is anyone else noticing that other than autistic mother's have different style that is in harmony with children, that notice the disability at times.

Don't worry, Elon Musk has volunteered to deglamourize autism on a world stage.

One of the advocates for autism on Quora, she's really good. That day she spoke about whether the accused mom was a narcissist or it was autism, really cuts through core issues. It took me a long time to decipher myself, my mum was emotionally absent and so was I. I did most of what was expected of me but this is why I'm so upset that my son sleeping all day, acting depressed. He's going to find holiday job as waiter, try it but I don't want him to work at restaurant that too rigid such as spur as I want him to learn to be more relaxed, less of people pleaser. I was used to living in flight mode and rushing him through a routine. When I realised what rdi was it just made simple sense. Not just lights out, when we tuck him in, snuggle bear, dim lights and even if he seems unresponsive in teen years at least I'm trying to help with emotions.