Terminated Pregnancies

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Long time ago, Dirtdawg and I exchanged posts about miscarriages our wives had had (I don't think he minds me mentioning it now). The topic got spammed up and that was that.

so now I'm bringing it up again

18 years ago my wife had a miscarriage at 10 weeks. It left me feeling very sad and hollow, like I'd been gutted.

There was little sympathy from anyone for either of us. There is nothing tangible to grieve over (no body)

We put a windchime in a tree. Its since lost its "tail" thing that stikes the chimes, but its still a reminder of the little one that may have been. A couple of days ago one of my kids noticed it for the first time (he was climbing the tree) and said, "do you want me to pull down this rusty old thing?". Wife and I simultaneously said a firm no. Its our only tangible rememberance. Most of the time we forget its there, but its there.

I suppose its very normal to still feel sad about a lost life (or was it just my expectations for a potential life).

Anyway thanks for listening. (I don't have anyone else, other than wife, to talk to about such things).

no prob. I feel what you're saying.

BM, does that mean you have no kids?
How sad.

PM my butt. We need a picture thread. Dosen't need any fancy title, maybe keep it open to what ever pleases us? I'd like to see your pictures to

Yeah, Bazza, that is a beautiful way to deal with your loss, and I'm sorry you and your wife had to go through it.

A friend of mine lost two pregnancies in a row, and thought about how to deal with her and her husband's loss. We talked about it, and she wrote her feelings out in a journal, and then burned the journal with her husband's help, the idea being she was sending those feelings out into heaven to let the spirit of her almost baby know how much she loved him and missed him and missed knowing him.

I bet that tree is beautiful, and I agree with Postie...we need a picture thread. I'd love to see your beautiful boys. And 14 and 16 is such a fun, confusing, and unique time. They are really starting to come into their own, I bet.

Metta, Rjaye

LOL
Why does the thought of Postpaleo starting a picture thread crack me up?

Oh, it's probably on page 75 or so of the old Dino cafe.

Go for it! My daughters are way more photogenic than I am, so I'll contribute (if they'll agree to letting me see their pictures, which is iffy at this point in their lives)

Back to the subject at hand, I happen to have an unusual physical characteristic of getting pregnant without trying.

I've had way more pregnancies than live births, so many I'm embarrassed, although at least one was a miscarriage.

I even got pregnant once when I slept with a guy ONCE, and he was - what's the word for when a guy can't get hard - I know it's something close to incontinent (damn my nursing education) - anyway, I finally (that should be in bold) got the guy hard, was determined to get it in, succeeded, he came, I didn't (he was inside for less than a minute) AND I GOT PREGNANT.

Story of my life.

I last got pregnant by MS last year, at age 42, but had a miscarriage due to the Prednisone I was taking for my infamous shoulder injury. Then I had my tubes tied!! Woo hoo!

I have a memory from about 1st grade of my mother being pregnant. I was told it was a girl. I often wonder if in another way I have a sister, one that we're linked but will never know each other, becasue she was born just a little later to another family. I still look for her. I know she's there. I can feel it and she's doing just fine.

Thanks! What a silly word.

That's very touching.

I'm very sorry Bazza.

To Aylissa

he certainly wasn't impotent, you were simply irresistible.

Michaelmas