Moving out

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Ok, serious question here. How hard/easy was it for you people to move out?

I've been seriously looking at moving out recently but I find it really difficult to come to terms with the knowledge that I will lose the family support that I have come to depend on. I know that that is abnormal but I can't help it. Can someone please tell me what would be a good way to move out would be. Thank you.

The first year is rough. I suggest moving to an apartment or home that is close to your family. Then try to arrange a time, for the first 3 or 4 months, that a family member comes by, maybe just to watch tv, or eat lunch. Maybe try to do this 2-3 times a week. Then gradually cut back the time to 1-2 times a week. Then 2 or 3 times a month. once you are comfortable you can think about moving further away. It took me 3 years after i initially moved out of my parents house, before I could dream of moving to a new city. even then I came home 3-4 times a month, and had my family come visit me often. and even now I live 30 or so miles from my oldest sister. It's comforting to know someone is close.

Oh and one more thing. You will mess up. you will forget to pay a bill or realize cocktail cherries, mars bars and Mt. Dew are not a nutritious diet. etc etc. you will make mistakes and for a little while you are supposed to, it doesn't mean you are a failure or you can't live on your own. Just have enough common sense to ask for help, and try not to repeat the mistake.
you will do fine!
good luck

There isn't a good way, unfortunately. I think part of the problem with this generation (and I include myself in that) is the inability to reconcile the problems that inevitably occur as we make our way through life with the perfect path we have been led to believe will be ours since we were born. s**t happens, and the sooner that is accepted, the sooner progress can be made.