People my own age seem to be way older than me.

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Most of them are way too weird. Anyone else feel like this?

I recently attended my 30 year high school reunion and it was a major freakout!

Some people think I am immature and very much like a child.
I really hate it when people talk to me like Im a three year old (literally) they really do and I know alot more than other people do of my age, I always have done.

well, at least you went. I missed mine 2 years ago. Went to the 10th, then realized I didn't remember anyone from high school, only college. I did have 'the moment', when that beautiful girl I never had the nerve to talk to did come up to me and talk....and then pull out pictures of hubby and kids...sigh...

I havnt been to a renuion and I dont think I really want to eithier. Some people liked me but as Ive been told people remember me as, "Oh that nasty girl."

I went to my 20th and 30th. Had a great time at both! But a huge part of my great time, especially the last time, was the fact that I still acted like I acted in high school!

I always had "nasty" or "weird" friends. I can´t have normal people around me, they are so boring.

I know exactly what you mean! my cousin is so far off in life compared to me and he's just a year younger than me. Makes me sad.

You mean, weird as in conventional? Yep, I think that. I look at the people of my generation in my family and they all have degrees and have made progress up the career ladder and had children, and I'm a child-free artist with a so-so day job, and I get the feeling I'm regarded as 'immature' for not having made more of my life.

There is no earthly way I could be persuaded to attend a school reunion. I had a few friends, but many of the ones I had I later clashed with on religious grounds, and it got nasty. I don't know if the views of the people concerned have changed at all by now, but without knowing for sure, there's no way I'd want to get back in touch with them.

For many years I was always "dressed-down" for not acting my age....so for a very long time I would not reveal my age.

NT's thought it was because I was vain....(partly true - who in the he**ll isn't vain?) ...but for the most part it was because people would get disgusted at me and say that my behaviour was inappropriately immature...

I could never understand things like wanting to spend money on furniture, appliances, RRSP's, etc...I thought it was for fun and instant gratification....

anyway...
when I turned fifty for some freaking reason (well maybe because I was so impressed that I had actually lived for fifty years) I started blurting out my age....everywhere...

For example: at any social gathering (formal or informal)....I tend to say: I'm fifty....I always forget to say hi....or tell people my name....(I'm working on that - not really - I don't really give a sh**t....about names....).............digressing.....again...


back to point:

the thing I notice when I tell people I'm 52 is that they look at me in shock and say "no way!"....now I'm vain - but not so vain to not realize that it's not because of my perfect wrinkle free complexion - they are just shocked - because - I just don't behave like a 52 year old.


and believe me - I have tried....

Someone on another Aspie forum suggested a 2/3 rule: the emotional age of an Aspie is generally 2/3 of their chronological age, as compared to the general population. What do you think?

Mine seems to be closer to 1/2.

Right on! Larree

I'm glad to hear this, I'm turning 50 next month and I sure don't feel like it. I doubt I'll be telling everyone though. I suppose I'll just go on as normal.

I'm quite a bit younger and I also feel similarly. Most of the people I hang with at college have their own places, live away from home, work, study, et all, yet I can barely juggle exercise, 12 credits, and a part time job. I wish I could get my stuff together like they do.

Also, due to my inexperience and what I would call my own lack of 'street smarts' I generally tend to act kind of naive. I used to tell myself that at some point I would catch up and be able to be 'normal', but as I've discovered what it means to be AS I've started to give up on trying to become like these people and just stick with doing my own thing.