I'm very worried...

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I just recieved notice from my landlord that I have through Sunday to either leave or pay the 2400 I owe in rent and utilities in full. I want to stay, but I don't have the money. I have nowhere to go, I don't know anyone I can stay with even temporarily- I have no friends, no aquaintances, no money, no family, no job, no coworkers, I don't know anyone. I also have one 60lbs. dog, and a computer and other stuff.
I need a place to live.
I can't be on the streets - I have been threatened and assulted more than once just riding the bus.
And I'm a woman...and this is Las Vegas. But I can think of no way I can get the money.
What am I going to do? What is a woman in my case supposed to do?

Hi Nautilus,

Wish I could help you.

Maybe very naive of me and I don't know how the system works in the States. But.
Can't you (phone and) ask a organisation which is concerned with the welfare of autistic people for advice or help. You have a off. diagnose, maybe they'll listen and will try to do something for you.

I don't know....
I hope someone will help you.

Best of luck to you.
Ceesjan

Get off the PC and get to the people that can offer assistance. Also check with Christian/ Catholic Charities sometmes they can help you.

In Canada we have the "Salavation Army".....probably in the U.S. also....

and how about: "The Elizabeth Fry Society"......mainly for woman who have gone through the penal system.....But ---- they help all women...
I know that they have a "shelter" in my home-town.....and I know a young lady who was given shelter from them....and she hadn't gone through the penal system....

Also: churches.....or the Society of Friends...Quakers...

don't give up....

also some vets: may shelter your dog (until you get settled)...

or: In my area we have a group called: "Furry Friends".....and they bring animals into their homes and temporarily shelter them....(good people)


don't give up!! try these resources...

and please let us know if you are okay...

Thank you for the replies and suggestions.
As far as social services, there really isn't any for someone in my situation, esp. on short notice...
But I thought of a solution...
I put an ad on craigslist for any man who has spare room can give free rent to a single woman because he wants female presence, or a possible girlfriend or so forth...
Oh dear God, I cannot believe how many people responded! I have been juggling phone calls all afternoon and evening, and I have 'a dozen plus' emails...I was shocked by the amount
But some of them scare me a bit...
And I just don't know who to trust, I feel a little suspicious about everyone...and if I pick the wrong man, and he gets angry and throws me out with my dog, I will have nowhere to fall back on. Or if he suddenly changes his mind after I move in and demands sex with me...I am going to be helpless to do anything...it is a little anxiety-inducing.
But it seems like my best/only option. But...
if I suddenly stop posting after next week, call the cops

Be careful: you're selling your body for rent, and in Nevada that is unfortunately legal.

okay, I am not selling my body for rent...'possible girlfriend', that is a just a body to you? and 'female presence' entails more than having a body... well, at least we all know what your view is of such things...
In addtion, 'selling your body'...this is often a term that is used to define protitution. Is this what you're saying? I don't know how you go from what I said to me being a cheap prostitute, but gee thanks! Get your head out of the gutter.

how old are you?

27

that is too bad i am sorry to hear this is happening to you

Do be very, very careful... My experience with men has been, that a lot of them (not all) make assumptions that you are offering something you're not, and get quite nasty when you don't deliver. Emotional blackmail - accusing you of being something you weren't. I've been caught out a few times, and it's really distressing.

"Do be very, very careful... My experience with men has been, that a lot of them (not all) make assumptions that you are offering something you're not, and get quite nasty when you don't deliver. "

yes...this solution is a little risky and does give me some anxiety. Especially knowing that I am not talented at 'reading between the lines', noticing warning signs of an unstable personality, etc.
I think, maybe, someone like me (i.e., in my situation) should not even be thinking about moving in with someone else. I should be living with family. But I don't have one. I was kicked out of the family I was born into years ago. (I have never been very self suffisient, so it has been an ongoing struggle...It's a long story.)

So what am I going to do? My point is that I really have no ideal options right now, and no 'safety net'...considering that, this seems like a really good option - better than literally sitting on a curb somewhere guarding my belongings and trying to soothe a pitbull who's having a panic attack(cars, and strangers, terrify her so badly, I am physically unable to take her on walks). At least I will have somewhere to stay, and perhaps make a new friend...(?)

Would you be more comfortable with a same-sex roommate?

Actually, I think that would be worse, but obviously for very different reasons. Mostly, I would be extremely anxious about offending her, or annoying her, or inadvertantly doing something that made her livid. I think I'm like a small portion of the male population > women indimidate me, especially the outgoing ones. I like women alot more than men and I think that women are inherently superior to men(no offense to the men), unfortunately, I find it very hard to hang out with them, talk with them, or make a connection because I tend to become to anxious when talking with them (I'm afraid I'll piss them off). I'm working on that, and I have improved recently, but still not enough to have any female friends.
Furthermore, how could I ask a woman to 'put herself out' like that? I would feel guilty staying with a woman and letting her struggle with the rent all by herself. Even NT women have a much harder time than men finding work, making a decent income, etc. in this society.
I know why I have these issues - my unbelievably terrifying mother. Women can turn into monsters when they are irrate with someone - or at least my mother could.
One of the most unnerving situations for me is when a woman is 'not happy' with me.
I have never minded females teasing me or laughing at me amongst themselves, so long as they do not direct their 'wrath' at me...
That was probably far more information than you were actually wanting, but I wanted to explain.

Actually you are mistaken:
Under Nevada state law, any county with a population under 400,000, as of the last decennial census,is allowed to license brothels if it so chooses. As of the most recent census in 2000, only Clark County (which contains Las Vegas) had a population above 400,000.

A woman's shelter will offer you help the day you go to them with your situation. I find it difficult to believe that las vegas doesn't have any