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21 Dec 2008, 4:06 am

I think I may have a bun baking in the oven :(



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21 Dec 2008, 8:04 am

So what's your question?

Have you taken a test? Would you want it if it turned out you were pregnant?



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21 Dec 2008, 1:02 pm

BellaDonna wrote:
I think I may have a bun baking in the oven :(


that happened to me a couple of times.

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21 Dec 2008, 2:40 pm

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I think I may have a bun baking in the oven :(

Congrats! You don't sound too happy about it, but think of the good things like picking out baby clothes :wink:


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21 Dec 2008, 2:57 pm

Bella? Are you alright?

You've posted only twice so far.

I hope you have a supportive group of friends and relatives.

But the first thing you should do is see a doctor, if only to get tested. Well, the EPT kits at the store are accurate, but they won't give medical advice, or hold your hand when you need to make a decision.

Please see your doctor.


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21 Dec 2008, 8:08 pm

Thanks Fnord. I have an appointment in the new year and I dont feel ok. I feel sick. I have three peoples house to go to at xmas and I just might spew over everything. I dont want to tell none of my family if I'm pregnant because I don't have a boyfriend and no, I dont want a baby. It's hard enough to look after myself.



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21 Dec 2008, 8:11 pm

I'm sorry.

You're facing a tough decision and you have to make it alone.

I am not fit to advise you any further.


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21 Dec 2008, 8:31 pm

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I'm sorry.

You're facing a tough decision and you have to make it alone.

I am not fit to advise you any further.


well, neither am I but I have been in your position before Bella Donna. My solution to my delimma was my own and I don't recommend it for anyone, for it is tough, emotionally, but the only way I could face the issue.

So, if you need to talk, I would be there for you.

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21 Dec 2008, 8:52 pm

well, since you don't seem so happy about it....I'm sorry to hear that. I'd get it checked out right away.



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21 Dec 2008, 8:59 pm

Thankyou, I appreciate that :)
I already have an 11 year old girl in care. She had an autism spectrum disorder and attention deficit. I looked after her on my own for many years and it isn't easy. I don't want to have a another baby. I think if I really am preg I am going to have an abortion or give up for adoption.



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21 Dec 2008, 9:14 pm

BellaDonna wrote:
Thankyou, I appreciate that :)
I already have an 11 year old girl in care. She had an autism spectrum disorder and attention deficit. I looked after her on my own for many years and it isn't easy. I don't want to have a another baby. I think if I really am preg I am going to have an abortion or give up for adoption.

You are 23 years old, and you have an 11-year-old daughter??? :o

I can see where that WOULD be pretty overwhelming . . .



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21 Dec 2008, 9:18 pm

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BellaDonna wrote:
Thankyou, I appreciate that :)
I already have an 11 year old girl in care. She had an autism spectrum disorder and attention deficit. I looked after her on my own for many years and it isn't easy. I don't want to have a another baby. I think if I really am preg I am going to have an abortion or give up for adoption.

You are 23 years old, and you have an 11-year-old daughter??? :o

I can see where that WOULD be pretty overwhelming . . .


she said, in her care.


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21 Dec 2008, 9:33 pm

BellaDonna wrote:
Thankyou, I appreciate that :)
I already have an 11 year old girl in care. She had an autism spectrum disorder and attention deficit. I looked after her on my own for many years and it isn't easy. I don't want to have a another baby. I think if I really am preg I am going to have an abortion or give up for adoption.


let me tell my friend you are posting here, she had a story similar to yours.

She can tell you how she is dealing with it.

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21 Dec 2008, 9:42 pm

sinsboldly wrote:
CityAsylum wrote:
BellaDonna wrote:
Thankyou, I appreciate that :)
I already have an 11 year old girl in care. She had an autism spectrum disorder and attention deficit. I looked after her on my own for many years and it isn't easy. I don't want to have a another baby. I think if I really am preg I am going to have an abortion or give up for adoption.

You are 23 years old, and you have an 11-year-old daughter??? :o

I can see where that WOULD be pretty overwhelming . . .


she said, in her care.


Merle

Sorry, I'm not following this. It says, "I already have an 11 year old girl in care" (not in her care), and "I don't want to have a another baby".

I thought that meant that BellaDonna already has a child, who is 11, in some type of care facility. Which sounds truly overwhelming, especially at a young age (23 years old with an 11-year old child = 12-year-old mom). Am I having an aspie moment with the math?

So, forgive me if I misunderstood, and my sympathies, in any case. Parenthood is difficult enough without the extra issues.

Best of luck!



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21 Dec 2008, 9:48 pm

CityAsylum wrote:
sinsboldly wrote:
CityAsylum wrote:
BellaDonna wrote:
Thankyou, I appreciate that :)
I already have an 11 year old girl in care. She had an autism spectrum disorder and attention deficit. I looked after her on my own for many years and it isn't easy. I don't want to have a another baby. I think if I really am preg I am going to have an abortion or give up for adoption.

You are 23 years old, and you have an 11-year-old daughter??? :o

I can see where that WOULD be pretty overwhelming . . .


she said, in her care.


Merle

Sorry, I'm not following this. It says, "I already have an 11 year old girl in care" (not in her care), and "I don't want to have a another baby".

I thought that meant that BellaDonna already has a child, who is 11, in some type of care facility. Which sounds truly overwhelming, especially at a young age.

So, forgive me if I misunderstood, and my sympathies, in any case. Parenthood is difficult enough without the extra issues.

Best of luck!


I was a little confused with the wording too.

Anyways to Bella, even though I personally have opinions on what should be done in that situation, it is your situation, not mine or anyone elses, so the decision is solely yours. I wish you the best, whatever you choose.



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21 Dec 2008, 10:34 pm

Fidget wrote:
CityAsylum wrote:
sinsboldly wrote:
CityAsylum wrote:
BellaDonna wrote:
Thankyou, I appreciate that :)
I already have an 11 year old girl in care. She had an autism spectrum disorder and attention deficit. I looked after her on my own for many years and it isn't easy. I don't want to have a another baby. I think if I really am preg I am going to have an abortion or give up for adoption.

You are 23 years old, and you have an 11-year-old daughter??? :o

I can see where that WOULD be pretty overwhelming . . .


she said, in her care.


Merle

Sorry, I'm not following this. It says, "I already have an 11 year old girl in care" (not in her care), and "I don't want to have a another baby".

I thought that meant that BellaDonna already has a child, who is 11, in some type of care facility. Which sounds truly overwhelming, especially at a young age.

So, forgive me if I misunderstood, and my sympathies, in any case. Parenthood is difficult enough without the extra issues.

Best of luck!


I was a little confused with the wording too.

Anyways to Bella, even though I personally have opinions on what should be done in that situation, it is your situation, not mine or anyone elses, so the decision is solely yours. I wish you the best, whatever you choose.


I was confused by the wording, too, evidently. What do you mean, Bella?


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