But you need to get out more

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i need to stay at home more

^^^lol. So do I. Rather, so does my pesky neighbour who has started bothering me again. (old story) but I've come to the conclusion that some people simply cannot stand their own company and can't bear to be on their own. So they resent those of us who enjoy our time by ourselves and try to force us out to be with them. We should start nailing their doors shut so they can't get out. Therapy for them and peace for us

I've gotten so bored with this comment, I reply with, "I know, but I have I have no-one to go out with"

Keeps them happy

I don't go out. I'm very sad about it, but I can't do things on my own all the time. I don't get told to go out more though. It breaks my heart to think how many days I waste indoors

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well i also am a lesbian and have been told many times in the past that i should get out more and join some militant group, but it was never for me, luckily now i am a bit older and i have a brilliant wife so i have no need to try and socialize anymore, as for getting out i have found that i prefer to spend my time with animals than people, so i have dogs that i can take out for a walk and i have a share on two horses so i can go and spend time with them, i also have an allotment so i am out most of the time, i also work a couple of days a week as a gardener, and still some people tell me i need to get out more, i usually tell them i am out most of the time they then say that is not what they mean, but to ask them what exactly they mean seems to be an annoying thing so i no longer ask i just accept that they have some strange view of what out is and carry on with my life and just avoid that person, in fact i avoid most people it is easier, most people that i talk to are on the spectrum as i find people that say what they mean much easier to understand.

Well to make my NT friends happy I got out more...lol ...okay against my better judgement I accepted an invitation to go to a Shakespearian play at the local college. I must reinterate how I hate plays and if I want to see someone act its on the big screen with special effects and lots of natural scenery. The play was boring and nearly 3 hours of torture to this Aspie. I finally resorted to amusing myself by analyzing the audience. I found it especially amusing how the women in the audience got all teary-eyed during the love scene as if they thought it was real or something. Heck I dunno guess I was missing something since the other women got it and I didn't. I just couldn't wait to get home to my comfy flannel pajamas and watching the History channel. I doubt I'll ever make a decent NT.

And we're the ones who supposedly lack Theory of Mind! On Friday and Saturday nights, whilst others are going to nightclubs downtown, drinking themselves silly, fighting in taxi queues and whatnot, I'm perfectly content to sit in my room at my computer with the iTunes, radio or occasional vinyl playing. That doesn't mean that I never interact with the outside world, but if I go out, it tends to be to meet people I've got to know online first, simply because that's a medium that works for me. Using the internet feels like the most natural thing in the world. But that doesn't mean I have no life: just one that's different, that's all.

I get told 'you need to get out more' a lot. And its frusterating. Part of me wants to do just that - get out there, socialize, have some sort of a life. But then there's part of me that is perfectly content staying at home, and another part of me that is even resistant to the whole idea of getting out more and, more specifically, getting myself into social situations that I know I'll hate. And the worst part is that I don't have too many friends. I can always leave the house and go to Starbucks by myself, or the gym by myself, or the movies by myself, or wherever else, by myself. Going by myself doesn't seem to count much, either to myself or to the people telling me to get out more. But its a catch 22 - you need friends to go somewhere with someone, but you need to go somewhere with someone to meet new people. Sigh.

A lot of it too is that what's normal for an Aspie is not normal for an NT person. I mean, I think most Aspie's probably stay at home far, far more than most NT people do. And we're being held to NT standards because people either don't know we're aspies, or if they do know, still cannot relate well to us. I don't blame them but its hard to be on the receiving end of it. I wish we lived in a world where Aspies outnumbered NT's.... then we'd all be making fun of them for getting out too much, etc.

I get this all the time, I hate it. All the questions, like, what did you do with your time off? Nothing. I didn't visit anyone, I didn't do anything special. Then they (parents) feel unnecessarily sad for me. It's even worse when they get mad about not calling every month or so. I get the question, "what, you don't want to talk to...?". No, I do want to talk, at least once ot twice a year. I'm absolutely fine on my own! I especially dislike the compulsory visiting we do on Holidays. If I wanted to see you, I would, once every two or three years is plenty.