Have you or anyone you know been raped?...

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I was wondering what goes through people's minds when they get raped. I can't really understand how someone would feel. I'm not sure if this is an appropriate question or not, so mods move it or delete it if you wish. But I was wondering.
So do you have any personal accounts of it? What kind of emotions go through your head? What was it like?

I was, but it's not like I'm going to describe it. I mean, it wasn't good.

No, but my aunt was and some of my friends too. It's really an awful thing to go through, especially considering you often don't get any support from others. I think that's what makes it so tough tbh.

I know someone who was raped, by her own father.

It's not something you want to talk about, or think about. As to what goes through someone's mind, I can't remember.

Funny thing to wonder about. What brought it to mind?

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I think every woman I've ever known well enough to know has been raped at least once.

Wow, Cockney, that's terrible. I'd hate to be her. Poor thing.

Yeah, I was hoping people wouldn't not want to describe it. I suppose that's a bit ridiculous though.
I was watching a movie, and there was a very emotional rape scene, with a 10 year old girl. It got me wondering what it's like to go through that. The scene really got to you and did a successful job portraying the awfulness and shock of it. I hope someone will be willing to explain....

My sister has been raped more than once, it totally ruined her life. Not good memories, she has been in psychiatric institutions for years. I admire her courage for fighting a way out of there. Rape is horrible, I may lack empathy but I could never do such a thing to another creature.

Me neither. I don't get how it can ruin a life. I mean, if I try to understand by imagining what would happen, I can't understand how it would stay with them for so long. That's why I ask this question.
Thank you people for not attacking me. I googled the question, and everyone's responses to other people asking it was a lot of hate and how the question is totally inappropriate and they should be ashamed.

I knew a friend who got raped. It was a horrible experience and yet I rather not go into detail because it is just a nasty horrible thing to ever happen to you or anyone.

I remember some boy asking me for sex back when I was at school.

All I know is that it scared the daylights out of me because of course one, I'm straight and two, he wanted to beat me up if I didn't... Yet I was just so lucky to escape from him, plus he was a huge boy and he was butt ugly, all I just did was kick him in the nuts, and since that day, he has not thought of laying his hands on me.

Fear. Pain. Disgust. Shame.

That's pretty much it in a nutshell. I'm not good at identifying more complex emotions so there may have been more that I don't have words for.

Oh, yeah. Disbelief. Like, "this can't really be happening."

I don't think much on this topic any more so some memory stuff is creeping out now that I think on it a bit.
I've mostly worked through the issues related to this and "overthought" it during that process (which took years) and have now mainly set aside those memories.

Is it mental or physical pain?

Well, as far as I remember it, the whole aspie shutdown thing was a blessing. It was like it was happening to someone else. Or at least, that's how I remember it. It hurt a lot, and I threw up once it was finished, it hurt to walk for a few days afterwards. I had nightmares after that I was a baby killer (I think because I was afraid if I got pregnant I'd be tempted to have an abortion.) It took me a long time to realise that penatrative sex between a man and woman didn't have to hurt, and every now and then I'd wake up screaming, but not remember what it was about.

Sorry I can't say more, there's not much else I can think to say.

The reason why it stays for a long time is (as far as I know) because it's a violation of a persons own will. A person had been forcibly used and feels forcibly used (usually).

About the guilt/shame thing victums have this awful feeling of violation but because people regularly blame the victum of rape, so they don't regularly talk about their feelings regarding it (because of not feeling safe), thus other people can take the viewpoint that it's bad to ask about these things.

It can ruin a life because a person can sometimes feel that they are unsafe anywhere they go, the fear of it happening again can ruin a life.

This being said, us people on the Spectrum can sometimes react differently to trauma than those not on the Spectrum.