Choices, idecivineness

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Anguish and fear paralyze decisions. So you try to escape in dependence from others. You don’t ask for advice in a straight way. That would be the worst. And then ask whom? there is no one in your acquaintances whom you really trust. They don’t know your internal state of affairs, your bubble-self which only can motivate your decisions. You would receive conventional wisdom. You talk obliquely of your problems, and receive uncommittal answers, totally devoid of meaning for you.

I've progressed into the state of productive argument with people. I seem to be angry at people when I am making progress with myself on my own.
It's hard to word advice questions with more than an over generalized tone.

i rarely ask for advice even when i need it.

Yes, indecisiveness does feel paralysing. It's a horrible feeling, like being trapped in concrete! If I can't decide about something I usually ask other peoples' advice (that's a bit confusing as I then get conflicting views but at least that way I may get options that I've not considered) but in the end I go with my gut feelings about something. My 'gut' decisions are usually better than my head ones, if there's a conflict between them.
Little decisions can tie me up for weeks, strangely, whereas big ones seem to come easier.

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I'm not sure if I'm indecisive or not, I can't make up my mind on that one.

I was once told that I suffer from "paralysis by analysis", which I think is a perfect description. I sometimes find it hard to decide because I extensively consider both options and their outcomes, to the point where each option seems equally appealing and unappealing. Sometimes you just have to go with your gut feeling, if you're lucky enough to have such a thing.

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