Alternative for "NT" -- still thinking about it, compromising, living vicariously, dropping hints, (passive) aggressive, procrastinating.
https://www.google.com/#q=wikipedia+liminality
http://neovictorianist.blogspot.com/201 ... hropy.html
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_projection
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Moral_relativism
You say that you want acceptance. They engage in dialogue, for the sake of negative attention. It's called dialectics.
We think of it, in terms of time management. What is a nameable goal, to be accomplished, by a date, in the short term.
They will be asking what really happened, 200yrs from now.
imo, NT's can't fixate on anything specific. Most interaction is meant to lead you on, or be an ongoing process. It's like the hypnotic induction, where there is a train, balloon, elevator, or cloud, and they are forever chasing some white rabbit, into a state of limbo. All you have to figure out, is how to keep the ball rolling.
They are always getting confused by some new word. You can remember what they said, 20 yrs ago, and already know what they will still be saying, 20 yrs into the future.