nostromo wrote:
ducky9924 wrote:
nostromo wrote:
Do you work ducky? Get any reward for that?
Just asking
I'm a student, are you trying to insinuate something?
No, just pointing out that we are generally rewarded for our efforts (reinforced) which gives a reason to do more it's one of the principles of ABA, food is one example of an effective reinforcer particularly for younger kids, there's numerous ways of course. E.g. myself I get paid every 2 weeks for my efforts at work..keeps me coming back.
Edit: I totally disagree with you on the need to hit kids, it's for the weak and lazy.
It depends on the child. Each one's an indivudual, with their own personality and requires their own brand of disipline. It takes alot of trial and error on the parts of the parents. Some you can get away with just positive reinforcement. Some only react to negative. Some you can look at with a mad face and that's enough for them. Others require a sound whiping. And not all negative reinforcement has to be actual hitting. There is the corner, the "go to your room". The grounding. Extra choirs. If you're creative you can think up more. Like handing a kid a couple of thick books and having him hold them out to his sides for a long time. Still, no matter how creative you get, some kids will ONLY respond to a spanking.
If positive reinforcement is the what your child responds to, great! Just don't use food. Americans in particular, have very bad relationships with their food. We eat to reward ourselves, to comfort ourselves, when we're bored, when we're being social, etc etc. Don't encourage this in your child, EVER! You're setting them up for obesity, heart disease and diabetes. You should eat when you're hungry. Not because you did something good or are sad or bored.