Tuttle wrote:
PaulaDurbin-Westby wrote:
Do you think my section has anything to do with autism/Asperger's, or did it have to do with marriage problems? Since I was saying that the marital problems had to do with the overwhelming debt, and he was blaming autism, it seems that anyone who "takes his side" will blame autism somehow, and anyone who "takes my side" will blame the financial stuff. And my overarching question about all this is "How on earth is this really saying anything about autism itself?!" Comments appreciated. - Paula
I think it was both - I think there were stuff about autism, and I think there was stuff about your marriage problems.
The stuff about your autism was quite well done. The stuff about the marriage problems seemed like it was "People like talking about relationships and autism so we're putting this in"
I agree but want to add, because from my perspective its REALLY IMPORTANT, that for at least some of us, our autistic traits make dealing with financial problems harder than they might be for some others. I have problems with anxiety and panic attacks, for example, and everyone seems to link this to my autism. One of the things that will trigger extreme anxiety is certain kinds of financial trouble.
Alone, I would have a very dull financial life because I can't deal with anything else, but relationships with other people have required me to get entangled in financial situations I would never be in on my own. And the experience of this is really hard. Panic is no fun at all. And feeling incompetent because of problems you did not want to be involved in is no fun either.
I have gotten into some bad situations and my relatives have wondered what was wrong with me (pre-diagnosis) once they found out about the Asperger's, they seemed to think my history suddenly made sense.
So I think this is a legitimate issue for a look at the lives of autistics to cover. I'm really glad it was there.