Is Fitting In Fair to You?

Post Reply New Topic

I have these debates in my head constantly, blaming myself for not being open minded enough, but at some point, should my own well-being be a consideration?

Why fit in when you can stand out?

I think the balance tips when I feel I am too far from my values and beliefs. For instance, I was a temp at an investment bank for a summer (barf) and in order to make the days bearable I tried to fit in and get along. However, the people I met there, who in retrospect were not only neurotypical but definitely Type A+ alpha individuals, were very very different from me. They were the type to show affection for each other by insulting each other and stuff. I don’t like being insulted so I decided I would rather they thought I was kind of lame than for them to start including me in their rounds of affectionate insults. What usually happens is I just shut down and go somewhere else and deal with the scorn as it comes. Whatever.