Ever been forced to be normal? (Version 2)

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Ugh, I have suffered this four times over. First I was told I 'might' have AS, and my father said it was a load of s**t. Later i was told I had Tourette syndrome and my father said it was just attention seeking. Then I was told i had OCD and my father said I was imitating Monk (even though i have had symptoms since i was 10) and finally i was diagnosed with dystonia (a twisting movement disorder) and my father said that I should just keep walking on it because it was probably just a cramp!

Sigh, we all get it! The worst thing is when your PSYCHIATRIST tells you to behave normally!

Small point, and off topic, but you really should spay and neuter your pets. There is a large surplus of pets, and they end up roaming the streets, eventually dying from disease, starvation, predation, or cars or something. It's irresponsible to have a pet and let it breed without taking proper measures.

How can someone force someone else to be normal?

One of the reasons why parents try to get their kids to stand up straight or walk right, not do this stim or that stim etc. is because they are trying to protect them from being bullied.
But parents have to decide to let their child decide or not if they want to change and if they get bullied it's their own problem, they have to decide to deal with it and not care about it or learn how to act normal in public. I hope this did not offend anyone because I am saying what my mother told me about me. She one day decided to let me do what I want and if I get teased, my own problem and I am going to have to deal with it.

Hmmm, asking an aspie to be normal is like saying to a person in a weelchair to get up and walk. But im doing better at being "normal" in these ways:
I make compromises. Like condensation irks me. The compromise is I can wipe the condensation off my drink, but not other peoples drinks.
I expose myself to what bothers me and figure out how I can cope.
And I just tell myself "What's the worst that could happen if i dont complete my rituals?" Like keeping things an even number.

I have a tendency to make noises and I flap and rock alot, my mum doesn't mind so much but she gets embarrassed when there is company, and I usually sit upstairs on my computer to keep out of the way. I know she does love me unconditionally, just I think she must feel like her friends wouldn't understand, I am 25 after all.
If I can't get away, I try really hard to keep myself in check but it is hard, especially when the room is full of her friends, because they are always trying to talk to me and I get anxious.

not suscessfully

Take your parents into a hospital and while they are with you start walking around the patients and tell them "Get normal, it's in your head, there's nothing wrong with you"
Probably too extreme but maybe enough

That would be quite hurtful, but maybe they're just trying to help you, thinking that if you keep acting "normal", you'll eventually become normal. They probably want you to have a better life.

It's a sad, sad world where it's more expected that one be "normal" than one be decent to other human beings. :\ If bullying is a problem, parents should go to the school or the parents of the bullies and give 'em hell, not do so to their own children for the non-existent crime of being different! To use the analogy employed earlier in the thread, would a parent tell their wheelchair-bound child "you can either learn to walk like a normal kid, or you can get bullied, your decision?" If so, such a person should never be able to call themselves a true parent. Likewise, a parent who tells their child they can either act like they don't have a certain neurological wiring or they're screwed and get no protection has failed as a guardian.

Every single day I go to work, and it gets hellish at times.

I've lost track of how many times one of my siblings, my sister especially,have asked me why am I such a freak and asked me to act more normally. sometimes from my parents,too.
I usually ignore them.
after a while, while I grew up, I guess they must've realized they couldn't change me cause they stopped asking. for the most part.