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06 Jan 2009, 2:36 am

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I sent him a reply saying he doesn't really seem to know much about it, he told me I use aspergers as an excuse when that is NOT true, so I told him to f**k off and shove his bitchy comments up his arse.

Poor response - a polite one explaining how you disagree with him would be a lot more effective.


I have to agree on this -- responding and explaining the fallacies within his logic would have been much more effective. Responding in the manner which you did seems to just provide him additional backing that you are correct. (Even if we know that isn't true)



I disagree. The guy already proved that he was an idiot, so would it really be worth trying to explain it any further? I think it would have just been "wasted breath", and not worth the effort. :shrug:


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06 Jan 2009, 7:59 am

jawbrodt wrote:
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I sent him a reply saying he doesn't really seem to know much about it, he told me I use aspergers as an excuse when that is NOT true, so I told him to f**k off and shove his bitchy comments up his arse.

Poor response - a polite one explaining how you disagree with him would be a lot more effective.


I have to agree on this -- responding and explaining the fallacies within his logic would have been much more effective. Responding in the manner which you did seems to just provide him additional backing that you are correct. (Even if we know that isn't true)



I disagree. The guy already proved that he was an idiot, so would it really be worth trying to explain it any further? I think it would have just been "wasted breath", and not worth the effort. :shrug:


thats fine but his whole point was that people with it use it to excuse poor behavior by either not responding or giving a polite response it would have gone against his claims as he wanted her to behave that way.



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06 Jan 2009, 4:04 pm

Kangoogle wrote:
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I sent him a reply saying he doesn't really seem to know much about it, he told me I use aspergers as an excuse when that is NOT true, so I told him to f**k off and shove his bitchy comments up his arse.

Poor response - a polite one explaining how you disagree with him would be a lot more effective.


I'm sorry, but experience has taught me that that doesn't work with people who think like that. Nothing will get through to them. It's like trying to talk to the FAAAS idiots, they just will not let anything past their ears and into their brains that doesn't exactly correlate with what they want to believe.


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06 Jan 2009, 6:17 pm

jawbrodt wrote:
otherman wrote:
Kangoogle wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
I sent him a reply saying he doesn't really seem to know much about it, he told me I use aspergers as an excuse when that is NOT true, so I told him to f**k off and shove his bitchy comments up his arse.

Poor response - a polite one explaining how you disagree with him would be a lot more effective.


I have to agree on this -- responding and explaining the fallacies within his logic would have been much more effective. Responding in the manner which you did seems to just provide him additional backing that you are correct. (Even if we know that isn't true)



I disagree. The guy already proved that he was an idiot, so would it really be worth trying to explain it any further? I think it would have just been "wasted breath", and not worth the effort. :shrug:

Sarcasm always does things the greatest justice - what you do is give him something witty that he wont be able to respond to. I actually get great pleasure out of such morons when using them as a figure of fun.



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06 Jan 2009, 6:19 pm

westernwild wrote:
Kangoogle wrote:
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I sent him a reply saying he doesn't really seem to know much about it, he told me I use aspergers as an excuse when that is NOT true, so I told him to f**k off and shove his bitchy comments up his arse.

Poor response - a polite one explaining how you disagree with him would be a lot more effective.


I'm sorry, but experience has taught me that that doesn't work with people who think like that. Nothing will get through to them. It's like trying to talk to the FAAAS idiots, they just will not let anything past their ears and into their brains that doesn't exactly correlate with what they want to believe.

They always make good sport - nothing winds these people up more than an intelligent response. Not that I am massively bothered with FAAAS; may as well ignore them and let them fade into obscurity.



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06 Jan 2009, 8:18 pm

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sorry but i really think think this is is an excuse for bad behavior.. why? i have experence with people who have been diagnosed with it and they learn to use it as an excuse for all manner of things they do.. in knowing them i know they have control much more thah they let on.. however i do feel genuine apathy for those who try very hard with their "difficulties" and still struggle with their probs.. i believe doctors have "made up" terms like this and adhd etc to catorgrise people who have had inadequit parentage to teach and impliment good learning and social interactive skills. however, good luck with that and i wish you well in your endeavours to do some good in the world..

Total a******.
He's (she's?) not very bright. Asperges? Think think? Experence? Genuine apathy? Umm...do they mean "sympathy"? Don't try to sound smart if you aren't, people, and don't be hating on those who are.
I certainly hope English isn't their native language and if it is they aren't trying to learn a new one, as they can't even speak their native language.


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06 Jan 2009, 8:20 pm

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If he's talking about poor parenting, well, it's a little old fashioned to say the least.


That is also another giveaway about how clueless he is... my parents have brought me up right, a good family with appropriate morals and discipline.

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Just how would he know you use it as an excuse? He barely knows you. Or he just said that because you told him he doesn't know much about it so he said it as a comeback. Just lame because he made himself look like an idiot.


Yes exactly! Thats why it pisses me off... he knows nothing about me! It wouldn't piss me off as much if it was true.

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Are you sure you weren't just using Asperger's as an excuse to tell him to f**k off? =]


No. He really pissed me off. I don't need an excuse. Hopefully he will never contact me again. I go off my tree, possibly a little too much. It didn't help that I was already in a bad mood yesterday, nice extra, having some stranger spurting smart arsed sh** he knows nothing about.

Could you possibly block this a*** who sent you this?
Not the person you were quoting...


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07 Jan 2009, 6:40 pm

He's evidently not au fait with the "little professor" concept



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07 Jan 2009, 6:43 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
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If he's talking about poor parenting, well, it's a little old fashioned to say the least.


That is also another giveaway about how clueless he is... my parents have brought me up right, a good family with appropriate morals and discipline.

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Just how would he know you use it as an excuse? He barely knows you. Or he just said that because you told him he doesn't know much about it so he said it as a comeback. Just lame because he made himself look like an idiot.


Yes exactly! Thats why it pisses me off... he knows nothing about me! It wouldn't piss me off as much if it was true.

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Are you sure you weren't just using Asperger's as an excuse to tell him to f**k off? =]


No. He really pissed me off. I don't need an excuse. Hopefully he will never contact me again. I go off my tree, possibly a little too much. It didn't help that I was already in a bad mood yesterday, nice extra, having some stranger spurting smart arsed sh** he knows nothing about.

I think random NTs assume we use it as an excuse. My sewing teacher thinks I use it as an excuse too!


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08 Jan 2009, 1:51 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
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If he's talking about poor parenting, well, it's a little old fashioned to say the least.


That is also another giveaway about how clueless he is... my parents have brought me up right, a good family with appropriate morals and discipline.

Quote:
Just how would he know you use it as an excuse? He barely knows you. Or he just said that because you told him he doesn't know much about it so he said it as a comeback. Just lame because he made himself look like an idiot.


Yes exactly! Thats why it pisses me off... he knows nothing about me! It wouldn't piss me off as much if it was true.

Quote:
Are you sure you weren't just using Asperger's as an excuse to tell him to f**k off? =]


No. He really pissed me off. I don't need an excuse. Hopefully he will never contact me again. I go off my tree, possibly a little too much. It didn't help that I was already in a bad mood yesterday, nice extra, having some stranger spurting smart arsed sh** he knows nothing about.


Well, yes, hopefully he won't contact you again as you obviously don't need a worthless prick like that in your life who isn't even bothered to make the effort to learn the real facts about Asperger's. Someone once told me something similar i.e. that they thought that Asperger's was just some poor excuse with a posh name for bad behaviour. At that point I told this person that the conversation was ending there and then and that I was not going to speak to him again as he was not worth the effort.


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08 Jan 2009, 2:08 pm

Fiz wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
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If he's talking about poor parenting, well, it's a little old fashioned to say the least.


That is also another giveaway about how clueless he is... my parents have brought me up right, a good family with appropriate morals and discipline.

Quote:
Just how would he know you use it as an excuse? He barely knows you. Or he just said that because you told him he doesn't know much about it so he said it as a comeback. Just lame because he made himself look like an idiot.


Yes exactly! Thats why it pisses me off... he knows nothing about me! It wouldn't piss me off as much if it was true.

Quote:
Are you sure you weren't just using Asperger's as an excuse to tell him to f**k off? =]


No. He really pissed me off. I don't need an excuse. Hopefully he will never contact me again. I go off my tree, possibly a little too much. It didn't help that I was already in a bad mood yesterday, nice extra, having some stranger spurting smart arsed sh** he knows nothing about.


Well, yes, hopefully he won't contact you again as you obviously don't need a worthless prick like that in your life who isn't even bothered to make the effort to learn the real facts about Asperger's. Someone once told me something similar i.e. that they thought that Asperger's was just some poor excuse with a posh name for bad behaviour. At that point I told this person that the conversation was ending there and then and that I was not going to speak to him again as he was not worth the effort.

Go you :D :cheers:


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08 Jan 2009, 4:39 pm

Kangoogle wrote:
westernwild wrote:
Kangoogle wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
I sent him a reply saying he doesn't really seem to know much about it, he told me I use aspergers as an excuse when that is NOT true, so I told him to f**k off and shove his bitchy comments up his arse.

Poor response - a polite one explaining how you disagree with him would be a lot more effective.


I'm sorry, but experience has taught me that that doesn't work with people who think like that. Nothing will get through to them. It's like trying to talk to the FAAAS idiots, they just will not let anything past their ears and into their brains that doesn't exactly correlate with what they want to believe.

They always make good sport - nothing winds these people up more than an intelligent response. Not that I am massively bothered with FAAAS; may as well ignore them and let them fade into obscurity.


I respectfully disagree. FAAAS isn't going anywhere, in fact, they're getting even more influence. They're damaging potential AS relationships, as potential partners of AS get information from them and turn away. They're attempting to influence legislation, even proposing their own, and getting in good with politicians, psychologists and other professionals, etc. They are not fading into obscurity anytime soon, unfortunately.


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08 Jan 2009, 5:19 pm

spockezri wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
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If he's talking about poor parenting, well, it's a little old fashioned to say the least.


That is also another giveaway about how clueless he is... my parents have brought me up right, a good family with appropriate morals and discipline.

Quote:
Just how would he know you use it as an excuse? He barely knows you. Or he just said that because you told him he doesn't know much about it so he said it as a comeback. Just lame because he made himself look like an idiot.


Yes exactly! Thats why it pisses me off... he knows nothing about me! It wouldn't piss me off as much if it was true.

Quote:
Are you sure you weren't just using Asperger's as an excuse to tell him to f**k off? =]


No. He really pissed me off. I don't need an excuse. Hopefully he will never contact me again. I go off my tree, possibly a little too much. It didn't help that I was already in a bad mood yesterday, nice extra, having some stranger spurting smart arsed sh** he knows nothing about.

I think random NTs assume we use it as an excuse. My sewing teacher thinks I use it as an excuse too!



Some aspies really do use it as an excuse. I think it's very dishonest of them when they do. Plus it hurts the innocent ones because it makes us all look bad and it makes people assume we are using it as an excuse when we are not.