TheygoMew wrote:
Joe90 wrote:
Well I've learnt something on WP. I've learnt that lack of empathy and understanding is a normal human trait to do it to those who are a bit different to us. It is NOT a unique Aspie trait at all. I keep saying this but nobody seems to get it.
Aspies find understanding and empathy difficult to NTs because NTs are different to Aspies in some ways. But NTs also find understanding and empathy difficult to Aspies because Aspies are different to NTs in some ways. So NTs and Aspies alike are just as bad as eachother. So that is why I really can't understand why they use ''lack of empathy'' to put down on the Autistic criteria as one of the common traits, because everybody is like it to anyone who is different in some way.
So it's like, NTs are allowed to have a lack of empathy for Aspies, but when it comes to Aspies having the same lack of empathy for NTs it is considered a problem.
Doesn't anyone get it? I really don't think it's fair.
It's not fair. NT's don't get told they lack empathy nor do they get corrected for their lack of empathy. I have corrected someone once. Not in a scoldy way but the person was being a complete hypocrite and putting me in my place for something they would have done too if someone was putting them down.
NT's can be helped in this area. They just aren't aware they too lack empathy thanks to psychiatry only stamping us and those with personality disorders as lack of empathy.
I am under the impression that some NT's may fear addressing their own issues. Has anyone here noticed how it makes someone who is considered "normal" get really pissed off if you mention a flaw or something that could be changed for the better if it has to do with themself and how personal it becomes? Meanwhile you are having all your own flaws aired out in the open with no regard to how you feel. It's as if you aren't really even there.
Looking at myself and other aspies I´ve met I´ve seen a lot of misguided empathy, but not much lack of it.
Some aspies have a problem with imagination, they need some sort of solid evidence of others pain to be able to feel sorry for them. A hypothetical suffering is not real and can therefor not induce empathy. So they might not feel sorry for starving africans (for example) because these africans are only words, not flesh and blood, until they can be proved to exist and proved to suffer.
On another note, an aspie girl I briefly knew believed she shared some sort of deeper understanding with homeless people in general by hanging out with them, even when they exploited her.
Just an example of misguided empathy, I´m not saying the majority of aspies are like this.
I think again the problem is you can´t give a fair picture of aspies by judging them by NT standards. Sometimes it´s reminiscent of the concept of nature as good or evil, like nature has a will of it´s own and that if it exists it can be compared to human civilization.
19 Dec 2011, 5:06 am
