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16 Jun 2012, 2:05 pm

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As I said, I doubt there will ever be some drug or treatment to change our neurology, just a treatment which may cause a temporary difference. If someone doesn't want to be treated, then when given the treatment they will be able to say "No, I don't want to take any more of this, thanks anyway" or they may reserve using the treatment for certain situations. (I'm imagining something that temporarily helps a person function at a higher level, I don't know if it's ever feasable or not, but it's my scenario.)

It's up to each individual to decide if they want a cure or to be treated. To say "Curing autism is wrong, do not do it" is just as bad as saying "All autistics need to be cured". We are all individuals and should be able to make the choice for ourselves. Autism Speaks is one organization that is trying to find that cure. They are also more about low functioning people, and probably wouldn't consider those of us here to be in need of any cure.

The idea of choice is a nice one, but we all know what governments are like, particularly today's self-centred, right-wing governments.
Acceptance sits to the left, not the right.


Well lets just take away all choice and let you make the decisions then.

That's probably really best, isn't it?


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16 Jun 2012, 8:04 pm

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I think that pushing anti-cure ideas is bullying.


Excuse me? Being anti-cure is bullying? None of us need curing. The point I make time and time again is that even autistics at the serious low-functioning end of the spectrum are often perfectly happy in their own world. Why try to force them into the already intolerant, NT-loving society that we have to live in?

And also, I'm not being anti-cure. You can't cure something like autism, something which isn't a disease. Therefore I'm only being logical.

So I think that pushing pro-cure ideas is fascism.


Yeah, you heard me. Some of us do need curing, and you know it. Nobody likes being cut off from the world. Saying that is a dirty lie is an affront to those suffering terribly. You're not cut off. I'm sick of your sadism. You don't speak for them. "Logic" doesn't belong to you. You're the fascist.

you realize that when you use absolutes, you will be wrong almost every time. Some people do like being away from other humans. Its also impossible to discuss Autism Speaks, Autistics etc without some generalizations. Guess what, you don't speak for them anymore than the rest of us. Your comments should really have the personal pronoun "I or ME" not to mention all the alcoholics and drug addicts who often state they use to escape from the world.
I don't feel cut off from the world, just my world of socializing is probably much smaller than most NT's.

Another big problem is the huge spectrum that is Autism. ASpeaks claims to be curing ASD which includes all of us. If they focused on Low Functioning or there was a better distinction between the various locations on the spectrum the hate would be less if AS was more specific on their target population and goals. Dropping Asperger's from DSM is just going to magnify this issue.

Also Autism Speaks is Dehumanizing Autistics into subhuman or second class citizens. Referring to us a a furking puzzle rather than as actual people. They seem to focus purely on the problem and not on the positives of ASD. Showing Autistics who are smart or successful might cut into the Money Machine


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16 Jun 2012, 9:17 pm

The problems that I have with Autism Speaks is that Autism Everyday video where the parents are saying nasty things about their children in their presence. I also don't like how that one set of parents are trying to drag their son to the playground, when it's quite clear that he really doesn't like going there. I don't like the mother who said that she almost drove her and her autistic daughter off the bridge, than she decided not to because she has thank goodness an NT daughter who needs her, in the presence of her autistic daughter. I also don't like how that other mother degrades her autistic son by changing his poopy diaper on camera, making it out that incontinent and or autistic children all grow up to be ret*ds who ruin life for their families. There were a lot of bad points in that video, but the diaper scene strikes a chord with me the most, because even though a certain person that I look up to and myself have a problem in that department, our problem came back in adulthood, after many years of perfect control.


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16 Jun 2012, 11:15 pm

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The problems that I have with Autism Speaks is that Autism Everyday video where the parents are saying nasty things about their children in their presence. I also don't like how that one set of parents are trying to drag their son to the playground, when it's quite clear that he really doesn't like going there. I don't like the mother who said that she almost drove her and her autistic daughter off the bridge, than she decided not to because she has thank goodness an NT daughter who needs her, in the presence of her autistic daughter. I also don't like how that other mother degrades her autistic son by changing his poopy diaper on camera, making it out that incontinent and or autistic children all grow up to be ret*ds who ruin life for their families. There were a lot of bad points in that video, but the diaper scene strikes a chord with me the most, because even though a certain person that I look up to and myself have a problem in that department, our problem came back in adulthood, after many years of perfect control.


And there is my problem as well. Those of us who are HFA or Aspergerian (and the difference is debatable even among medical professionas) can advocate for ourselves, and therefore, we do. That, however, does not mean that we have no disability. Blind people and paraplegics can be perfectly intelligent and advocate for themselves, but it does not make life all flowers and sunshine. I have had SERIOUS issues in my life due to my Asperger's which lead to severe depression, breakdowns, suicide attempts, etc. But Autism Speaks seems to believe that anything other than Kanner's autism is not worthy of attention. Okay, fine.... That is their choice and I'm alright with that.... but...

What they DO seem to advocate for is parents who are embarrassed, inconvenienced, and frustrated by their children. The parents, not the children. But that's okay too, as long as no one is pretending to know that most low-functioning or non-verbal autisitc children WANT their lives to be different. As long as no one is claiming to read their children's minds and claiming that because care-givers are miserable, then the children must be miserable as well.

As I wrote before, I am not claiming that Autism Speaks is or is not doing those things, I'm just asking questions. I am a very functional (and I like to think, on my terms, successful person on the spectrum), but I have a handicapped sister with spastic diplegia and severe developmental difficullties. If she is loved and kept happy, then, as much of a burden as she can be to those around her, she has the best life we can give her. If she would have to go through hell just to make lives easier for four or five other people, it doesn't seem like a fair deal. The only thing a cure would help is the one caring for her. If that is NOT what Autism Speaks is in favor of, then I'm fine with them.


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17 Jun 2012, 12:13 am

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you realize that when you use absolutes, you will be wrong almost every time. Some people do like being away from other humans.

Very few want to be away from them all the time. But individuals should make those choices for themselves as to quantity of time away from them. Anti-curebies want to make that choice for others by keeping them from being cured, through claiming others want to be isolated.

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Its also impossible to discuss Autism Speaks, Autistics etc without some generalizations. Guess what, you don't speak for them anymore than the rest of us. Your comments should really have the personal pronoun "I or ME"

Are you telling others who disagree with me that they don't speak for all of us?

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Another big problem is the huge spectrum that is Autism. ASpeaks claims to be curing ASD which includes all of us. If they focused on Low Functioning or there was a better distinction between the various locations on the spectrum the hate would be less if AS was more specific on their target population and goals. Dropping Asperger's from DSM is just going to magnify this issue.

They do focus on the low functioning.

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Also Autism Speaks is Dehumanizing Autistics into subhuman or second class citizens. Referring to us a a furking puzzle rather than as actual people.

That's an overused false exaggeration.
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They seem to focus purely on the problem and not on the positives of ASD. Showing Autistics who are smart or successful might cut into the Money Machine
Showing successful ones in ads doesn't bring in money for the unfortunate autistics who need the money. Nobody is going to donate money to a cause for those who are already successful. They donate to help the unfortunate. And money is needed to carry out research.



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17 Jun 2012, 2:11 am

dyingofpoetry wrote:
CockneyRebel wrote:
The problems that I have with Autism Speaks is that Autism Everyday video where the parents are saying nasty things about their children in their presence. I also don't like how that one set of parents are trying to drag their son to the playground, when it's quite clear that he really doesn't like going there. I don't like the mother who said that she almost drove her and her autistic daughter off the bridge, than she decided not to because she has thank goodness an NT daughter who needs her, in the presence of her autistic daughter. I also don't like how that other mother degrades her autistic son by changing his poopy diaper on camera, making it out that incontinent and or autistic children all grow up to be ret*ds who ruin life for their families. There were a lot of bad points in that video, but the diaper scene strikes a chord with me the most, because even though a certain person that I look up to and myself have a problem in that department, our problem came back in adulthood, after many years of perfect control.


Anf there is my problem as well. Those of us who are HFA or Aspergerian (and the difference is debatable even among medical professionas) can advocate for ourselves, and therefore, we do. That, however, does not mean that we have no disability. Blind people and paraplegics can be perfectly intelligent and advocate for themselves, but it does not make life all flowers and sunshine. I have had SERIOUS issues in my life due to my Asperger's which lead to severe depression, breakdowns, suicide attempts, etc. But Autism Speaks seems to believe that anything other than Kanner's autism is not worthy of attention. Okay, fine.... That is their choice and I'm alright with that.... but...

What they DO seem to advocate for is parents who are embarrassed, iinconvenienced, and frustrated by their children. The parents, not the children. But that's okay too, as long as no one is pretending to know that most low-functioning or non-verbal autisitc children WANT their lives to be different. As long as no one is claiming to read their children's minds and claiming that because care-givers are miserable, then the children must be miserable as well.

As I wrote before, I am not claiming that Autism Speaks is or is not doing those things, I'm just asking questions. I am a very functional (and I like to think, on my terms, successful person on the spectrum), but I have a handicapped sister with spastic diplegia and severe developmental difficullties. If she is loved and kept happy, then, as much of a burden as she can be to those around her, she has the best life we can give her. If she would have to go through hell just to make lives easier for four or five other people, it doesn't seem like a fair deal. The only thing a cure would help is the one caring for her. If that is NOT what Autism Speaks is in favor of, then I'm fine with them.


It wouldn't be fair to one's sister if they could be afforded the opportunity to live an independent life and was refused that opportunity. The problem is, no matter how much the child is loved, once parents and family are gone, those whom are dependent on others are at the mercy of others.

But at the same time, disability is a reality of life, that can visit anyone at any given moment; no one is immune from that potential. It's rare that answers are found for individuals with severe disabilities; but it doesn't hurt to try find answers.

It's highly unlikely that the physical changes like the abnormal brain growth that exists in tandem with regressive autism, are going to be reversed or cured, or that your sister will be cured with her condition, but there is the potential that these conditions might eventually be prevented in someone else, in the future, through research efforts.

And there is also the potential that research will lead to better interventions and treatments where no cure is available.

Autism Speaks has branched out their research efforts into areas that impact those across the spectrum. All of that information is clearly identified on their website, if one looks at the actual research they are funding. It's also been linked and quoted in these various threads.

Beyond this autism speaks is not funding research for a cure in their current year research. It's not even a possibility until causes are specifically identified for symptoms, of which so far are only loosely associated. The long term goal is one that is hope at this point, and there is no valid reason to take all of that hope away, however slim the chances associated with that hope may be.

Those who benefit the most in the short term, from research, are more likely going to be individuals that are not as severely disabled, such as those potentially impacted by the research that autism speaks is funding to protect the diagnoses of those individuals identified with "milder" forms of autism, per DSM5 concerns. As well as the research the organization is funding to identify autism spectrum disorders in the general population, in hopes of providing better access to diagnosis, and available community support for those individuals.

Autism speaks is not providing reruns of the "Autism Everyday Video" on their main website, nor have they done so in years.

The most likely place to see that video, or to hear the descriptions of what happened in it, are in threads like this one. It's interesting that the organization responded to the offenses taken by those that didn't like the realities of autism portrayed in that video, by removing the video, but it continues to be advertised in online autistic communities through the continuous mention of the video by some that took offense to it years ago.

A similar issue exists with the "I am Autism Video" that hasn't existed on Autism Speaks website for years. There is no significant issue of concern usually expressed other than those two videos per marketing efforts, that have long past moved off the radar of the Autism Speaks marketing efforts.

It is only online autism communities and various autism speaks oppositional blogs that still actively market the videos to the general public. For those that can identify with the emotional concerns, that may come across the online communities or blogs, it is another opportunity for someone to become emotionally motivated enough to consider offering another financial donation to the organization, among the millions of others that are already contributing.



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17 Jun 2012, 5:20 am

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I got snotty in my other post, but this is a topic that pushes my buttons. It pushes other peoples buttons too, I see.

The thing is, there is a difference between the very low functioning person and those of us here. The main difference is that those of us here, even those who say they are not high functioning, can communicate. Even if they can't communicate as well with words or in person, they can sit down and type out their thoughts and opinions. The people I am talking about wanting to cure (probably treat, because I doubt there will ever be a cure) are people who cannot communicate.


This is rather frustrating, as many of those children do learn to communicate in some way (verbally or via facilitated or augmented communication), and already have some means to communicate at least some of their needs. Some indicate they want to be cured, some indicate they do not want to be cured. Many indicate they do not appreciate people making assumptions about their needs or speaking for them, and yet every time this conversation comes around, someone is quick to disqualify everyone who can communicate from the discussion and invoke "autistics who cannot communicate at all."

It is completely unnecessary to invoke people you believe cannot speak for themselves in order to argue in favor of a cure. The truth of the matter is that a lot of autistic people would take a cure if offered. And a lot of autistic people would refuse a cure if offered. And these two groups are not neatly separated into "HFA never wants a cure and LFA always wants a cure." The fact that some want a cure, regardless of their ability to communicate or their apparent ability to function is actually a good enough reason to argue in favor of developing a cure. There's no need to speak for or over any particular subgroup who is deemed too incapable of communicating on their own behalf.

This probably sounds harsher than I want it to. I just mean: There's no reason to explicitly set aside a group of autistic people and say they are completely incapable of practicing self-determination. The fact that some autistic people explicitly want a cure is sufficient reason to argue that it is okay to want a cure.

I don't really talk about why I don't want a cure at this point because all too often people who are invested in the idea of a cure seem to want to dissect any explanations given (as happened to some posters in this thread).



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17 Jun 2012, 11:08 am

Yep, these autistic geniuses do in fact need a cure so they can fit in better with people whom have normal intelligence.



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17 Jun 2012, 11:17 am

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you realize that when you use absolutes, you will be wrong almost every time. Some people do like being away from other humans.

Very few want to be away from them all the time. But individuals should make those choices for themselves as to quantity of time away from them. Anti-curebies want to make that choice for others by keeping them from being cured, through claiming others want to be isolated.

At the same time pro-cure people want children who are too young to make a choice be cured, possibly even against their will. Maybe they don't want to be more neurotypical. Also being autistic does not mean someone has absolutely no knowledge of the world around them or is always away from others...as far as I know. I mean from what I have seen and read it seems even lower functioning autistics do interact with the world just in a different way...and maybe some are miserable but to just assume having autism=misery is also not the best approach. I think most people like to have a little bit of time alone....a lot of times autistic people prefer more time alone, or prefer to be in smaller groups of people than huge crowds. Forcing huge crowds and too much social stimulation on them is more likely to traumatize than help.

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Its also impossible to discuss Autism Speaks, Autistics etc without some generalizations. Guess what, you don't speak for them anymore than the rest of us. Your comments should really have the personal pronoun "I or ME"

Are you telling others who disagree with me that they don't speak for all of us?

Point is no one of us here can speak for everyone with autism anymore than autism speaks could, at least that is what I think the point should be with that.

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Another big problem is the huge spectrum that is Autism. ASpeaks claims to be curing ASD which includes all of us. If they focused on Low Functioning or there was a better distinction between the various locations on the spectrum the hate would be less if AS was more specific on their target population and goals. Dropping Asperger's from DSM is just going to magnify this issue.

They do focus on the low functioning.

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Also Autism Speaks is Dehumanizing Autistics into subhuman or second class citizens. Referring to us a a furking puzzle rather than as actual people.

That's an overused false exaggeration.
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Well, Autism Speaks is all about solving the 'puzzle' maybe it does not indicate they don't think we're human, but they do throw that term around a lot.

They seem to focus purely on the problem and not on the positives of ASD. Showing Autistics who are smart or successful might cut into the Money Machine
Showing successful ones in ads doesn't bring in money for the unfortunate autistics who need the money. Nobody is going to donate money to a cause for those who are already successful. They donate to help the unfortunate. And money is needed to carry out research.


What about money to provide better environments for the unfortunate autistics...then spending it all on searching for a cure and treatments that more or less try to force them into neurotypical behavior which to them is probably unnatural.


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17 Jun 2012, 11:28 am

The goal of applied behavioral analysis is to make the autistic indistinguishable from his peers.



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you realize that when you use absolutes, you will be wrong almost every time. Some people do like being away from other humans.

Very few want to be away from them all the time. But individuals should make those choices for themselves as to quantity of time away from them. Anti-curebies want to make that choice for others by keeping them from being cured, through claiming others want to be isolated.

At the same time pro-cure people want children who are too young to make a choice be cured, possibly even against their will. Maybe they don't want to be more neurotypical. Also being autistic does not mean someone has absolutely no knowledge of the world around them or is always away from others...as far as I know. I mean from what I have seen and read it seems even lower functioning autistics do interact with the world just in a different way...and maybe some are miserable but to just assume having autism=misery is also not the best approach. I think most people like to have a little bit of time alone....a lot of times autistic people prefer more time alone, or prefer to be in smaller groups of people than huge crowds. Forcing huge crowds and too much social stimulation on them is more likely to traumatize than help.

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Its also impossible to discuss Autism Speaks, Autistics etc without some generalizations. Guess what, you don't speak for them anymore than the rest of us. Your comments should really have the personal pronoun "I or ME"

Are you telling others who disagree with me that they don't speak for all of us?

Point is no one of us here can speak for everyone with autism anymore than autism speaks could, at least that is what I think the point should be with that.

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Another big problem is the huge spectrum that is Autism. ASpeaks claims to be curing ASD which includes all of us. If they focused on Low Functioning or there was a better distinction between the various locations on the spectrum the hate would be less if AS was more specific on their target population and goals. Dropping Asperger's from DSM is just going to magnify this issue.

They do focus on the low functioning.

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Also Autism Speaks is Dehumanizing Autistics into subhuman or second class citizens. Referring to us a a furking puzzle rather than as actual people.

That's an overused false exaggeration.
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Well, Autism Speaks is all about solving the 'puzzle' maybe it does not indicate they don't think we're human, but they do throw that term around a lot.

They seem to focus purely on the problem and not on the positives of ASD. Showing Autistics who are smart or successful might cut into the Money Machine
Showing successful ones in ads doesn't bring in money for the unfortunate autistics who need the money. Nobody is going to donate money to a cause for those who are already successful. They donate to help the unfortunate. And money is needed to carry out research.


What about money to provide better environments for the unfortunate autistics...then spending it all on searching for a cure and treatments that more or less try to force them into neurotypical behavior which to them is probably unnatural.


What are better environments? Cure will really solve the core problem. Cure will be cheaper in the long run. There already is some money spent on long-term care for the unfortunate ones. And again, I don't know what neurotypical behavior is.



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Yep, these autistic geniuses do in fact need a cure so they can fit in better with people whom have normal intelligence.


I don't like your trolling.



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I don't need any cure from Autism Speaks. Thank you but no thanks. I am fine just the way I am and other people should learn how to get along with me without constantly bashing me for being autistic. So does that make me a troll because I have a mind of my own? Or does my intelligence threaten neurotypicals ? Are neurotypicals so envious of me that they have to constantly remind me that I am mentally ill so they can feel better about themselves ? When autistics offer solutions to the worlds problems a neurotypical will say "Physician, heal yourself"



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I don't need any cure from Autism Speaks. Thank you but no thanks. I am fine just the way I am and other people should learn how to get along with me without constantly bashing me for being autistic. So does that make me a troll because I have a mind of my own? Or does my intelligence threaten neurotypicals ? Are neurotypicals so envious of me that they have to constantly remind me that I am mentally ill so they can feel better about themselves ? When autistics offer solutions to the worlds problems a neurotypical will say "Physician, heal yourself"


You're trolling cause you know that cure isn't intended for the super-intelligent. You know that cure is for the low-functioning to make them high-functioning. Many individuals are envious of high intelligence, so high intelligence should be shared with others, so they can have that intelligence too.



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NO person on this thread is "TROLLING" in my judgement.


if you think someone is a troll please contact a liasion or moderator in private messsage


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What are better environments? Cure will really solve the core problem. Cure will be cheaper in the long run. There already is some money spent on long-term care for the unfortunate ones. And again, I don't know what neurotypical behavior is.


Environments that don't tell them they are 'wrong' for being autistic and thus behaving in an autistic manner and with supportive people who care about them and their well being, not who just want them changed or cured so they won't be such a 'nuisance.' Also I am sorry you don't know what neurotypical behavior is but I am sure you could look it up starting with a google search, there is not an exact single definition of it but its basically behavior that is considered that of someone with a neurotypical brain.

Also I think more of it should go to that sort of thing, though by long term care I don't mean stick them in some institute to be forgotten about...hell I might even suggest society is changed some to accommodate those with disorders like autism, kind of like they do for people in wheel-chairs and virtually any other physical ailment.


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