Sperm donor was AS

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I thought that the point of sex is to combine genes in as many possible ways. If you have as many different combinations of genes as possible, then it will be more able to adapt to outside changes.

It is the diversity of the gene pool that gives it strength, not the selective breeding of the "fittest" genomes.

So excluding people on the basis of a genetic disorder is non-scientific and counterproductive.

It needs to be accepted that having a kid will always be a gamble.

As for the morality of doing this, what people don't seem to understand is that we on the Autistic Spectrum face an existential threat. Society in general is extremely bigoted against those on the spectrum, and instead of examining this bigotry, everybody on the Autistic spectrum is just labelled as diseased. If society remains this way, and the genes for Autism are identified, then the vast majority of Autistic babies will aborted, just like 95% of downs syndrome babies are.

So I can understand why the OP has done this.

I would recommend the OP reads up on laws relating to sperm donation in his location, and consider moving if it leaves him open to being prosecuted or sued. I also think he should disclose his AS to his fiancee though. It would be a good way to test her love for the OP. If she chooses to leave him because of this, then the relationship was not meant to be. It's better to be single than be with someone who won't accept you the way you are.

Yeah, but once people start screening for anything eugenics has begun. Autism is not something to screen out. What if you could find out if a foetus will go on to develop cancer. Should it be aborted because of this? I find it strange that there is so much support of the demonization of autistic people on a support forum.

In this instance the two things are linked. What makes it dishonest is the assumption that autism is undesirable in offspring. I think this is a false premise and comes from a lack of understanding of what autistic people can contribute. By screening out autistic donors, these clinics are discriminating against the disabled. It's private not public so ces't la vie. But I don't think this is a good precedent.

This is very much about eugenics, as it is nothing more than window shopping for the genetics that suit what you want and expect. Where do we set the boundary for genetic selection and the 'trust' that people will disclose these? Autism, anxiety, dyslexia, ADD, albinism, freckles, blue eyes, blond hair? This is a very slippery slope which I very much oppose. There is already screening for serious birth defects and conditions, anything beyond that is simply eugenics that is more often than not being fed by pure ignorance. Ignorance such as the commonly shared notion that a person with autism is somehow worse than a person without autism.

For one my parents had a much easier time raising me than my older brother, whom was kind of an uncontrollable rascal. Even though our day and night differences we were great friends and siblings. I was classified autistic and he was classified normal, does that say anything about us? No, we are both human beings in our own way and our parents loved both of us regardless. He ended up fine in the end and so will I, and so will most people with autism. Sure I deal with emotional issues, I deal with frustration, I deal with disappointment but I also deal with a lot of happy times. If it were for a eugenics dominated society I wouldn't have ever existed, I do not ever want to see a society where it is agreed that people such as I have no right to be born.

A child shouldn't treated like a product that you can just buy, expecting it to be as you want it and have no flaws. If you can't or do not want to take care of a child with flaws you shouldn't be having children in the first place. Even with the 'perfect' genetics things still can and do go wrong on a daily basis. What parents should really be asking themselves is if they can provide the utmost love, care and soul for the child. In the end what is important that a child is healthy and happy. I get sick in my stomach when people say "I wish it will turn out to be girl", "I wish he will have pretty blue eyes and blonde hair like his father", "I wish she will be very intelligent like her mother", as if any of these were not to be true the parents would be disappointed. And yes, there are plenty of parents that are greatly disappointed that their son or daughter turned out to be autistic, I find it utterly sickening that people can think this way.