Does autism need a It Gets Better campaign?
I want to fit in. I want to connect with people. I want to know that what I feel inside is what other people feel. I don't have to be a carbon copy. I can still be me. I just want to belong. I don't want to be lonely anymore.
I think this post is very good representation of what a lot of autistic teens (both diagnosed and undiagnosed) feel like for a lot of their lives, feeling disconnected from those around them and wishing they could be "normal." With all the publicity the It Gets Better campaign is getting, should autists have their own version? (Maybe try to get some celebrities to come out of the closet about having autism.)
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I want to fit in. I want to connect with people. I want to know that what I feel inside is what other people feel. I don't have to be a carbon copy. I can still be me. I just want to belong. I don't want to be lonely anymore.
I think this post is very good representation of what a lot of autistic teens (both diagnosed and undiagnosed) feel like for a lot of their lives, feeling disconnected from those around them and wishing they could be "normal." With all the publicity the It Gets Better campaign is getting, should autists have their own version? (Maybe try to get some celebrities to come out of the closet about having autism.)
When are you going to acknowledge that comparing autism with being gay is absurd? There's no such thing as coming out of the closet about autism. It can't be concealed. Mentioning a diagnosis to explain already obvious behavioral traits doesn't count as "coming out of the closet".
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Why do you think that the comparison is absurd? There is a lot written about whether to "out" yourself as aspie or not and it is something people discuss quite a bit.
Autism can definitely be concealed! If it couldn't be concealed, then how would it be possible that so many people aren't diagnosed until later in life? That they can be seen by psychologists even and not be diagnosed?! For example, of the 184 WP members who responded to the poll, more than half were diagnosed at age 22 or later.
I am not going to comment on you personally or whether you can hide it or not. However, do not speak for everyone in assuming that it is so obvious.
Deciding whether or not to tell friends, family, coworkers, etc about a diagnosis is a huge deal to many people. Please do not belittle those experiences.
That's an Aspie symptom too
As an autistic teen, I'd like to say NO, I don't feel that at all. I'd really rather NOT be normal. Normality sucks.
i'm happy with who i am but i still suffer the judgment of others whose opinions i never asked for.
so that doesn't solve everything.
the "it gets better" idea, whoever it might be addressed to, is not about becoming more normal. it's about finding your niche and people who care about you for who you are and not in spite of it.
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It would be nice. Would it be honest?
I am an eighteen-year-old college student with good grades, friends, two married parents, a boyfriend, an instrument, a church, and career ambitions. I am in good health. I can pass as neurotypical. My parents did everything the "experts" said. They drove me to the brink of insanity by training me that everything my senses told me was tainted with misinterpretation and inherently suspect. Until I got to middle school and met band directors who found me useful, most adults in my life were trying to obliterate and replace as much of my personality as they could.
I figured out that I was somehow different at three. They told me I was on the spectrum more than ten years later. Before, I had no word for what I was. I thought I was the only one. The sense of alienation has never left me. The rage and pain at what happened are a part of daily life. My parents say they made mistakes but offer no real apologies for trying to wipe the daughter they had off the face of the earth in favor of a normal kid. Now that I am grown and free of the IEP system, they tell me I should just get over it, from what they did to me to encounters with a lady who liked to lock me in a small, whitewashed room about the size of a closet, shine bright lights in my eyes, and threaten me because she was mad at my mother.
I should be a success story, but I never feel like one. Can we say it gets better? It would be nice. For at least some of us, it would also be a lie. I would rather die than be "cured," but rebellion is lonely. Being different is hard. Not everything gets better, even for those of us who come to value and respect who we are. Instead of telling people comforting falsehoods, maybe we could make a world in which that statement rings true.
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I assume that the "It gets better" campaign for gay teens is mainly the amount of teasing that these teens face if their out of the closet or if their in the closet its saying that they'll be accepted and supported if they come out. Autism is can draw some similar comparisons but its still different. I would guess most people on the spectrum, its fairly obvious to people that theirs something wrong with you unless you have HFA or aspergers. This whole "closeted" concept is often not the case for half or more of the people on the spectrum. WP seems to mostly represent aspies, remember were minority % of the overall autistic spectrum, it seems a lotta people dont realize this on here. WP also seems to draw a lotta so called undiagnosed aspies, which I personally theorize a lot arent actually aspies. It seems the functioning level of many members on here is not an accurate representation of the spectrum on the whole.
Next, the public perception of gays is highly controversial. Yet now a days a good percentage of the population is in support of gays while a huge percentage is against gays as well. It makes sense to have an "Its gets better" campaign. When u got so many people that support gays in a positive light. Autism is not viewed in a similar sense. Majority of the population is terrified of autism, the people who claim to love and support autistic people still wanna change us. Face it, autism is one of the more feared conditions that people do not want their kids becoming. Autism speaks has this whole, we can defeat autism thing going down. Autism speaks is very influential in the autism community. It seems that not enough people are convinced themselves that things will get better. The LGBT community is just battling for acceptance while autistic people are battling so much more.
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A lot of LGBT teens are in the closet and still are detectable (and bullied) as such. I think especially gay males (and those perceived as gay males) suffer extremely harsh bullying whether they're in or out of the closet. Those who can "pass" as straight can probably escape it.
I don't know how it compares to the bullying autistic children receive, though. Just noting that it's not simply a question of being closeted or not.
I think we need an "It's Get Better", but as w/ LGBT rights we need to be go step by step (I'd say we are already on a post-Stonewall stage), we could make some kind of Day of Silence or Spirit Day for aspies/auties as well.
The perception of gays isn't 100% what I'd like it to be, but it's quite well if you compare it to the situation of 25,30,40 yrs ago, and on most of the world still today
If we had a support group more like GLAAD and not that shame of AutiSpeaks "representing" our interests, I'm frankly sure we would have a better public image. Also LGBTology has been around since the late 19th C while the science of autism didnt start until the 1940s. Also LGBT rights movement has a time advantage of quite some years (Stonewall=1969, while ASAN appeared in 1992)
Of course it'll take years to change the oppinion of most ppl 'bout ASDs
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