Redbook displays effect of anti autism hate on 7 year old

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Seven-Year-Old Girl Shares Her Struggles With Autism In Heartwrenching Note To Mom

Did the Redbook editors even read the article before writing that headline? It was clearly not autism that was breaking her heart but how it is portrayed.

This magazine is popular amoung women and moms etc so I hope a lot of readers do get beyond the headline and read the girls letter because the price of anti autism hate on young children is one that desperatly needs to be told and told again.

Poor Cadence. It's really sad that such a young girl had to question her moral standing because of all the autism negativity in the media and in general culture. I liked the way her mother responded, and I really hope she's feeling better now.

I agree with you that the headline isn't quite right for what the story's about.

I'd also be scared if I was 7. She has a wonderful mum.

Here is a problem, people keep posting about how their autistic children hurt others but good thing Cadence isn't like that and should be grateful she isn't that bad or doesn't have that autism. I am starting to accept that maybe it's the hardcore truth that some are just violent and lot of us are not comfortable with it so we keep saying it doesn't cause us to be violent. So that would mean we all know better and we can help it.


Anyone who posts about how aggressive their autistic child is or post about how aggressive they are and mention their autism, they are contributing to the stigma and to the negativity about it.

Some HUMANS are just violent.

Some of those humans have autism.

Some Muslims are just violent. It's fashionable among conservatives in the West to paint the whole religion with that brush. Some Christians are just violent too (a much less popular statement) as are some Jews (I have known very few Jews but what Christianity refers to as the Old Testament is one violent book, and I have to assume it is at least in part historical record and that there are those who take it as a guide manual for present behavior).

Autistics aren't the only ones who have issues with black-and-white thinking, or who look for patterns, or who want to know what to expect.

So humans, as a general broad-stroke concept, tend to paint with broad strokes. Finer details-- like "This person was violent, but this one and that one and all these ones never have been and I have no reason to believe they will be"-- come hard.

And that's unfortunate. For everyone. It's easy to see how it's hard on "out-groups" or those who have been "othered" or whatever. But it's hard on the "in-groups" too. Because they lose out on a lot of knowledge. And they're always a little bit afraid that they too can be othered, and what will happen then??

So much of autistic "aggression" is due to a world that insists we conform to non-autistic standards. Case in point:
https://www.aane.org/asperger_resources/articles/miscellaneous/as_in_the_criminal_justice_system.html

As I read through that doc, it occurred to me just how unlikely it was that any of it would be read by, much less followed by actual people with power in the criminal justice system.

To be sure we are on the same page, when I mention aggression, I am talking about abuse where the person is psychically harming others. The link you showed me was about how an AS individual can get in trouble with the criminal system and I hope it wasn't saying that if an individual gets overloaded, they will start attacking others around them like if the sun is too bright, they start going on a beating rampage because they were sensory overloaded.

Only time I ever got aggressive was when kids would be picking on me and bugging me and not stop after I have kept telling them to leave me alone. It is a possibility I might have been misreading the situation so I thought they were being mean to me. The worst I have done in a situation where I wasn't being picked on was throw a pencil across the classroom or throw my work assignment on the floor or push over a coffee table at home with my foot. I also did hitting as a kid and got more aggressive as a teenager and my mom's cure to that was she would have sent me away to a mental hospital so I had to stop my abuse. What got me that way, for one I just wanted a clean house and no one would conform to my standards so I acted out and them getting mad at me for my anxiety made me act out more and then I decided to try and have ODD to make my life easier but instead it backfired because my mom had threatened to send me away if I hit again. Also it was because of a dog we had that kept peeing in the house and no one would keep him crated or outside so that made me act out too. I couldn't be in control of my environment so I acted out and was very depressed and felt suicidal. It was like the walls were closing in on me so there I was trying to break them down.

When I would have outbursts in class, they were just yells and screams, no aggression on anyone or any property damage.


I don't know, all this aggression stuff is still alien to me because when I was a kid, it never occurred to me to just be violent if I got too frustrated in class and it would take a while for me to start shoving and hitting after being frustrated or teased so aggression was always the last resort for me. But if I was exposed to that behavior in a behavior program class, then I would have started doing it more and do other aggressive things which is why my parents kept my school from putting me in a behavior program with aggressive kids. But when I knew a boy with ODD, he was aggressive and abused his mother and I saw how much control he was in and how she conformed so I decided to give it a try when I reached my breaking point at home months later and it backfired because my mom refused to put up with this s**t so she decided if I will be this way, I will go away because she has a right to be safe in her home. But if I hadn't been to that boy's house where I saw him be mean for real, I probably wouldn't have started to mimic him because it would have never been in my mind because I had never been exposed to it so it wouldn't have even occurred for me. I did hate myself for it for a while and felt how could I have been so stupid, now I realize I was just confused and frustrated so that helped me forgive myself and stop being so harsh with myself just because my mom would have sent me away and she says I was abusive and very mean. In my family I never had any excuse, AS was never an excuse. So when our puppy died, my anxiety lessened and I had less meltdowns because I was calmer and my mom said it was so great to have me back and instead of Asperger's as if we are two different things. But I admit I didn't even try to control myself just because I had AS I thought it was okay for me to act out and let myself so therefore I was using it as an excuse and I could help it because I didn't even try. But it was still hell living like that and living with a family you feel abandoned by and getting mad at you for being stressed out or for having anxiety and you feel all your family members are deliberately doing things to drive you crazy just so you will have anxiety and even my mom told me "You will have anxiety when we do this" and to me at 16 that sentence sounded so disgusting it was like saying to a person with seizures, we will use our cameras and use flashes on them and you will have seizures. See why I would have a lot of anxiety?


But then again I guess someone can do a study to show how people with anxiety disorders are aggressive or people with OCD since I also have these two.