do people pity autistics/people with asperges?

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and how do you feel about it if you believe they do? Does it anger you or do you just let it roll off your back?

I don't think so. I believe that most dread dealing with us especially those of us who are on more severe end of the spectrum. In the eyes of most people, I think we're are just another class of retar#$.

Last edited by cyberscan on 07 Jun 2009, 5:13 am, edited 1 time in total.

That's just as bad..if not worse.

It's not us that people pity. It's our parents.

I think that CockneyRebel has a good point. It's always about the "parents" and their agony, as if the child does not exist. Selfish!

But, yes.. We are pitied. My uncle read my psychological evaluation and he just said, "Bless her heart," when he finished reading it. That was pity.

People do feel sorry for me because I've been unable to live a normal life, and I don't like that.

no one pities me.
i am not pitiful.
i earn good money and live comfortably, and my demeanor shows it.

i am obviously not the same as average people and am isolated, but i do not seem sad to anyone so they do not pity me.
some people are annoyed that i am so "smugly comfortable" as they describe it.
they are often consumed with worry, and i breeze through my life rather easily, and they resent my lack of suffering. i do not care like they do so i can not be disappointed as much as them.

I have been pitied in the past but now I find that the opposite is true. Since I was 7 or 8 years old I have had the he needs a kick up the arse attitude dealt in my direction from various neurotypicals. My mum always felt that having an aspie son was a punishment. Now I am treated the way Black people are treated in a racist society. Other people patronise me like a 6 or 7 year old even though they have the IQ of a peanut.

if your talking about my mom, then yes. Hated homelife, moved out at 17. My mom thought belittling was the best policy. mom was a drunk and my brother would toreture me for not doing his chores. I later became a us army paratrooper, lasted 7 years. Now I get respect from my brother, what a loser he is. He says he dosen't remember, is this why you can't make eye contact with me? I can make eye contact with people I hate. Just venting...

I get pitied, even by people that don't know, they see me as some shy little mouse and go all concerned over me when they don't need to. Annoying it is.

Yes. I think they do. I certainly get that reaction from some people. It infuriates me, as if an adherence to the kinds of conformities they espouse are somehow superior to the way I am and need and want to live.
On bad days, it breaks my heart.

I do not feel the slightest but smug about it.

I think this lack of understanding and pity is at the core of so much that I do not like about the world.

Last edited by millie on 08 Jun 2009, 1:39 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Yes, pity. Or worse, avoidance! I once mentioned being on the spectrum to a neighbor, and he immediately began treating me like a ret*d, even though I had lived there for nearly three years! It was as if my mentioning the AS immediately wiped out the past, and gave me a brand new, undesirable identity. At first it hurt, but then I took pleasure in ignoring him, because I realized that such a person was hardly deserving of my time and company, if they were that stupid. In fact, he changed drastically, too, in my eyes.

And if pity could be spent on things like money could, I wouldn't mind when people gave it so freely...

Yes, people do pity me when they find out that im autistic. I hate it!! Its as if I became a totaly different person appon mentioning my differece.

Its all the negative and undeserved publicity! I feel like that they are saying that we are just as bad as the people who are infected with the swine flu and should be avoided.

What happened to treating people just like people should be treated, no matter what differences we have?

Oh no! Be careful of people with ASD! You might get infected!

Some people....



I don't get pity, but rather mainly get from most people the "buck it up" response. A bit of background:

I'm a 17 year old Australian student (Diagnosed with Aspergers), and regularly achieve academic excellence. My fixation is computers, but it also branches out into maths and science. As a result of speech therapy (aimed to build my social skills), my language skills are brilliant as well.

Aside from the social difficulties, I'm also sensitive to light and sound, and my hand writing is illegible at best and causes pain.

To overcome this, we (as in, parents, the school and myself) have put in place numerous strategies to help to manage these problems: If it gets too noisy in class, I have an MP3 player with classical music that I can listen to. Sunglasses help as well, and we have filed (and received authorization) for me to be able to use a laptop in my exams and other assessment pieces.

However, because AS isn't as obvious as other disorders/conditions - and the fact that I do so well academically, some of my peers (and some of my friends) have this idea that I get an unfair advantage as a result. I get quite a few comments about it. When the measures were first put in place, some of my classmates complained to the teacher about it.

So, less pity and more "deal with it". I've had an uncle say "when I was at school we used to just call them nerds." Yeah. I did have a desire to strangle him or at least yell at him a little.

I think some people pity me, but it is difficult to see since I do not read people to well. Some friends of my seem to look out for me and can be a bit protective, that could be considered pitying?

But I also think some people are annoyed by people with autism and do not like them.
Like I told in this topic: Some leaders hate autistic kids

To you, or to the readers?

I spent a few years working through an MBA, a few years before the aspergers diagnosis, and three hour hand-written exams came close to crippling me. One time, out of a dozen or so, they let me use a laptop. Trust issues, though, and "unfair advantage" issues prevented the idea from catching on.

And, back to the topic at hand, people are happy to despise or ignore me on account of the disorder, but I haven't run into pity yet.

I don't find people pity me.

People are often frustrated by me, angry at me, hurt by me, confused by me, or simply don't understand me. I think I'm too strong willed for people to conceivably pity.

I'd rather people pitied me than were hurt by me though.