loners and the media

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So why is it I see articals saying zeroing on people who dont intereact with neighbors, and are loners are the ones that parents have to be scared of.....
You know just beacause I dont want to engae in meanless gossip that I have to dumb my self down to do dosnt mean Im the unibomber or wanting to snatch someones kid.
Parentys should warn their children gainst strangers period....not zering on the ones that live off by themselves as evil. And get to know the people their Children Interact with. That way no one gets pointed as bad, and people who dont have anything to do with their child, dont get their lives pride in to.

in terms of crime, it's most often the family or someone known to the family.

Methinks, The cultural loner-phobia probably started with the Columbine Massacre.

I think people have been wary of loners since time and memorial. We're supposed to be social creatures and anything that deviates from that norm is seen as unnatural or suspicious. Again, just people with their fear of difference and non-conformity.

The person has something to hide. A sinister motive? Maybe they have some major flaw in their personality. The person might have a superiority complex and refuse to mingle because of it. The individual's asocial behaviour suggests some difference or resistance to a larger group mentality.

The media's habit of associating the preferance to one's own company to serial murder doesn't help either. I don't think it's the deep seated reason for it, but it doesn't help matters.

It probably is true to say that bullying in all its forms comes down to conformity. I have been looking at some of the lectures given at the National Autistic Society conference in 2008 in the UK. One was about bullying of mainstream secondary school students with Asperger Syndrome.

This lecture told of how perhaps bullies bully to make others conform and are supported by social groups which value
cohesion. How bullies gain social acceptance by enforcing social conformity. I hope that isn't a tacit support of bullying.

The same probably applies to bullying in any setting, including in neighbourhoods. Which can be a particularly traumatic type of bullying since you have to live like that in a place. It probably is about perceived nonconformity.

I keep bringing up Asperger or autism specific housing complexes as solutions to the vulnerability that might be faced by the independent adult Aspie when living in communities. Since Asperger's is in many ways an education thing, in that most people don't know a lot about it, another thing that's come to my mind is education in schools about disabilities including AS. Educating kids that for example single men, for goodness sake, are not necessarily paedophiles.

The independent adult Aspie would have had a heck of a time in ancient Rome. Bachelors had to pay the aes uxorium, which was a tax upon bachelors. It was seen as antisocial not to marry and have kids, because people weren't producing population for war etc. Too many people are still stuck in a similar attitude today. And it's concerning because empires such as ancient Rome have been partcularly influential on our modern, western world.

All I can say is, celebrate your individuality and uniqueness and as they say, don't let the bastards grind you down.

I think it depends on which "media" you're talking about. On shows, movies, books, comics, games, etc, the loners can just as equally be badass heroes or good-hearted nerds as they can be psycho bad guys.

still a crime and illegle

Why not just talk to him and understand him, before deciding on anything?

Although I admit, that's lame!