Am i the only fat aspie?

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That's unbelievably heavy!

is that.... even possible...

Yes, ask my grandpa, he's fat.

Lifelong battle with my weight, body image and food.
Problem being I had a decade long battle with anorexia/bulimia...but, I have always loved sweet and unhealthy foods. It is like a control issue really. At one point I was 70Ibs at the height of 5'11.

I was plump at the age of around 10, which is also the age at which I was abused and I think that set up some sort of a complex about being anywhere near the weight I was then.

I am 5'10 now (anorexia shrank me) and am at my heaviest...(or was. I have lost 7 ibs in the last 2-3 weeks. )
I am 143 at the moment and aiming to get back down to 130 or so by xmas.

I oddly found that doing a lot of walking was making it harder for me to lose weight... not sure if it was muscle mass or what.
but the last 3-4 days I have been losing half a pound a day.

It isn't really to do with looking good or health for me.
It is about having a phobia of doing exactly the same sort of thing as another poster said they did...breaking a toilet seat, breaking a chair etc.
I only have to make a floorboard creak and I get into a mad rage about my 'heavyness'.

So imagine my current situation, living in an apt that has a series of nailed down boards usually used in attics/lofts covering the floor.
Jump up and down on one and the whole lot shift.

But year. I consider myself overweight at anything over 139Ibs, no matter what my BMI is because to me, anyt hing over that is a man's weight, not a woman's weight.

Graelwyn,
It's very unhealthy to think that 150 lbs is heavy for someone who is 5'10" tall, even if the person being weighed is female. Please DON'T lose any more weight. The only thing that losing more weight can give you is death.

I've been overweight for much of my life myself. I've never been fat, but I've been privy to the food-as-comfort phenomenon a lot of people have on here. I was bullied and very lonely as a child, so I would snack and eat to numb the pain. I know how hard it can be.

I am still a big guy in frame and not weight anymore. I have a footballer's body and a very large upper body (ironically, this makes buying new clothes hard in the sense that if you took away my large upper frame, I'd fit into a medium size, but because I'm so built up top, I have to wear XL and it's damn frustrating).

Here's how I've been dealing with my weight -- I don't drink exceptionally often, I don't eat a tremendous lot of carbs and I exercise.

Thing is, I'm doing it for my health, not image. I'm in my early 30s and I'm honestly concerned that, if one was to let themselves go, there's a huge risk for things like diabetes (a truly evil condition that's affected a few of my friends), heart disease and other conditions. My motivation is seeing how important it is to maintain a reasonably healthy body weight, not for any particular image-related issue. Bottom line is this: some people are lucky to have the bodies ideal for our particular time. But in fact, they are in the minority (and, if these were pre-historic times, would probably have been the first to die off). Many of us have to work hard to keep pounds off, let alone get thinner, and many celebrities that society worships have personal trainers, dieticians, money to spend on maintaining a near-perfect physique. It's an illusion and unattainable for the vast majority of us.

I dream of weighing what you do! I weigh 240lbs and I'm only 5'2". I have a very similar diet to you but I'm more of a fan of pastry and cheese than sugar. I'm with you on the carbs though, I eat a lot of bread and cereal. I gain weight very easily and lose it slowly so I battle with my size constantly. At my biggest I have been almost 290lbs and I have fluctuated a lot over the years. It's very depressing.

I'm a little under 5'3" and 150 pounds. I realize some women are perfectly happy and healthy at 150 pounds, even at my height, but my body just isn't designed for this much weight. I am constantly aware of my heaviness, and always feel like I'm lugging around a huge burden. I hate exercising, because it's physically uncomfortable for me. I try to keep up a walking routine, but it's hard. I've figured out that, with a daily walk, I need 1800 calories a day to maintain my weight. If I eat more than that, I gain. It's really hard to fit a nutritious diet in that few calories.


My mom has the same problem. She's 71 years old, and obese. She gains weight if she eats more than 1600 calorie a day, and she can't exercise because of her arthritis. Even walking is painful for her. She eats real healthy, and almost no junk food at all. Still, she's not able to lose weight, because it's just too hard to eat that little for very long. You can't eat anything unplanned, or eat a slice of cheese while you're making dinner, or anything.

People think being overweight means you're lazy or a glutton. That's easy to say if you are the kind of person who can eat whatever you want and not gain weight, or if you lose weight easily. (Like if you are 19. Wait until you are 50.)

For some inspiration, though:

Six years ago, I noticed this lady walking around on the footpaths that wind through my neighborhood. She was what I'd call "morbidly obese", and was wearing one of those tent-like garments. I'd guess she's in her 50's. I remember my autistic kid being scared of her, because she was kind of funny looking. I began to notice that she was out there every day. Well, I still see her out walking on a regular basis. Only now, she's not morbidly obese. She doesn't look like a Victoria's Secret model, but she does look like she's at a healthy weight for someone her age and height. Every time I see her, I think, "Wow!"

I'm not fat, but let's say that I'm not a physical specimen either.

I put on a lot of weight when I was eating gluten again ( from 2004 to late 2007 ), and ended up heavier than I'd ever been before ( 75kg, which is about 165lbs? ). But since cutting gluten out, in Sept/Oct 2007, ( because it makes me depressed ), I have lost masses without restricting anything else ( now 58kg ).

Food intolerance is very often associated with addiction and cravings, and binge eating, and obesity, and all the rest of it. I too have hoarded, and snacked, and nibbled, over the years, and bread, biscuits, pitta breads, pizzas, etc, were always the worst. Also "bad mixtures", concentrated protein and concentrated carbohydrates at the same meal, tend to make me put on weight, fast.

I have started cutting out sugar again recently because, although I wasn't putting on weight, ( it's the gluten which does that ), I was feeling increasingly anxious and overwhelmed.

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I personally was never in any race. I'm happily married, and I know my husband loves me even though I don't look like a Victoria's Secret model. I didn't look like one when I was 16 and weighed 110 pounds, either. But my desire to be at a healthy weight is entirely for myself, not anyone else. I want to be physically comfortable, be able to find clothes that fit well, and be able to bend over without feeling like I've got a spare tire in the way (which is how I feel now). I want to have enough muscle tone that I can physically lift the corner of my kid's mattress to put sheets on the bed. I want to be able to go hiking in the woods with my family, and not have to sit and rest while they carry on without me. Being over 40 doesn't mean that I suddenly don't care about any of that. It does mean that it's harder to achieve, unfortunately.

there are probably people that have what i have too, a near constant hunger. Some days i cant go more than 30 minutes without eating something. The weird thing though is that I don't gain weight. My body kinda regulates itself i guess. And when i get into those moments of constant eating, emotional state has nothing to do with it, it just happens. Now the weirder part is I have had to go and cleanse my GI tract (doctors orders because if problems I have been having and i need a clear colon for a colonoscopy to test for Diverticulitis.Since ifs been cleansed and checked, dunno why, but i don't really have an appetite anymore.

Yea that's the best way to describe myself sadly. I eat a lot of fast food, don't exercise cause I don't like going out at all. My wife always tells me that I look pregnant.

I'm 5 ft 6 and I weigh in at 244. I've already lost 20 lbs by replacing the starches in my suppers with fruits and vegetables. I do admit that I have problems when it comes to sweets and junk food. I'm not that worried about it, though the weightloss that I've been experiencing is the icing on the cake. All I know is that I'm not going back to Weight Watchers. I don't want to be told to weigh 140 lbs for my height, just because I'm below the age of 40. I'd be happy, at 200 lbs.

I love sweets but I have managed to stay thin.

I love sweets too and yet I am thin.