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I am all alone/ lonely because it is almost like their is two of me. The one who wants to makes friends and can't. The one who care less about people. it feels to me that the one who wants to makes friends and can't just gave up. She left me with feeling like I am behind glass, I can see what happening, but can't do anything about it. Also sometimes actually a lot of times it is easier to inore people and drift off than pay attention to them. if I close my eyes and cover my ears I am not here. I can't see you or hear so you are not there. And worse, then she comes back and says make friends now. you know how. but she is not even there, and she is behind deeper glass. So other one says people will hurt you so read. Books can't hurt you. That is why I feel lonely. When I feel lonely I read. It hurts so bad!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !
1. Can anyone tell me why i feel like this?
2. Is this normal?
3. What can be done?

hiya, Teddy2
welcome to the club.



i feel lonely just like that also, for several decades now. i won't say it gets easier but after one reaches a certain age, with the pressures of youth long past, it becomes by default less difficult.



it is not normal for an NT but it is closer to normal for an aspie like myself.



i tried everything, was in therapy for more years than i was not, to little avail. one does get used to it if one steels themselves to stick around long enough to outlive one's youth. that is the key, for with wrinkles and gray hair and aches and pains, one also gets compensatory wisdom that enables one to have the cold comfort of perspective. when one eventually learns that there is nothing new under the sun, but only the same old limited number of things in limitless guises, one eventually just becomes bored of life and waits for the end. ted turner had this pithy thing to say about it- "life is like a b-grade movie, in that while one wouldn't walk out on it before the end, neither would one wish to see it again."

Well Teddy2, I think you came to the right place. I'm new to WP, but from what I've seen so far, the people here are very kind and inviting. Your feelings of loneliness are quite common among people in the autistic spectrum, and I believe that talking about it with others in the same situation is one of the best remedies there is. If it helps at all, I feel exactly the same way...I want to make friends, but I don't quite know how...autism can really suck sometimes.

Anyway, if you want someone to talk to, feel free to PM me sometime. I may not be able to respond immediately, but I'll get back to you when I can.

You should be the people who speak the the first words

welcome to WP, Zechariah
i could be the first to speak but the words usually don't come out right.