How do you Avoid Getting Abused on Sports Teams ?

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I was trashed talked a fair bit but mostly by parents. They can say some pretty cruel things to a child and luckily I was too naive to understand just how vicious their comments were! I'm glad I never played hockey as a kid: the behaviour of some hockey parents towards opposing kids/referees is downright disgusting. The worst bullying (if you can use that term) I faced was as a catcher in baseball. On one team, just about everyone decided to have a 'home plate collision' with me even if I was standing in front of the plate facing away from them and the ball was in the outfield. Of course, the parents were egging the kids on in the stands. It got to the point where the association made a rule that any intentional contact with a catcher is an automatic ejection in all levels almost exclusively due to what the President saw was done to me.

I wonder if that STUPID "picking teams" thing ever happens anymore in school P.E. classes? It's a very cruel experience for the last few kids that are chosen.

I used to do everything possible to get out of gym class for that very reason. The problem is that people that end up teaching gym class are likely those that enjoyed it as a kid so were probably oblivious to the pain around them......... so the experience perpetuates itself

I've noticed the P.E. instructors are usually the biggest pricks out of all the teachers in the school. That's obviously part of the reason they do the "picking teams" thing in the first place.

They even sometimes "join in" if the other kids are making fun of somebody else in the class.

That kind of falls into the bell curve theory in the youtube video I posted above. Gym teachers certainly aren't known to be the brightest of the bunch. They would be the dumb pricks with good social skills on the lower end of the bell curve. The fact that people so dumb end up as teachers is a scathing indictment of our educational system

I doubt it and some things have changed for the better. It wasn't so much the fact that I was picked last as it was the fact the person picking me would basically sigh and wanted to say 'I am only taking him because I have to'. Again, I was NOT a geek and only a semi-nerd at worst and not physically challenged so I had some pretty good skills. No superstar but I could hold my own and was above average. However, my weak plays were always pointed out and when I dominated everyone by scoring a goal, getting the 3 point shot, etc it was like it never happened.



Absolutely. I wonder where the @#$# do they find these Gym teachers? Some of them couldn't even do a single push up but had no problems belittling others. One the of most arrogant pricks and biggest jerks I know actually teaches PE in the inner city elementary school so that comes as no surprise to me.

I personally would avoid the sports teams but I really s#cked at sports because of physical disabilities & was bullied a lot in elementary so I only every played sports when required for PE. My advice for what little it's probably worth would be to play a more aggressive sport like football or wrestling & display a tough attitude; not arrogant mocho competitiveness but more forceful powerfulness. People are less likely to mess with you when they think you could hurt them

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I only had one like, really mean gym teacher, at my Christian school I went to in elementary school, she also was my kindergarten teacher, she was just so pissed at my Aspie/NVLDness, looking back. Public school the gym teachers were mostly OK. We did lots of ridiculous useless activities, in fact the whole class was.

My favorite gym teacher, 10th grade, he was pretty nice to me in the "all these other kids are jerkfaces" kinda way. He was like 50something, and would always listen to Dave Matthews band and get all the kids pissed. Best thing about him, though, he would say "Achieving greatness!" constantly. Now I say it and remember that phrase, at first as a joke, but I don't know, it's a good mantra of sorts I guess. I liked that, though. He'd just walk around like "Are you achieving greatness right now?" and he'd be dead serious the way he said it, it was awesome.

The big problem in gym class is really lack of specialization. The communist systems, they had the polar opposite extreme, where they'd have all their kids specialize in athletic things, I wish we could have a bit of that here. IE, instead of gym class, subsidize like gymnastics or other sports, either inside the school system, or outside of it.

The best way I can think of is to choose a non-contact sport like bowling or archery. The worst thing that can happen is getting hit by a backwards ball.

I have close to no social skills at all and I do just fine. I don't speak to team mates unless its to tell them to pass what ever ball or nice job, etc. when I start to try and converse is when everyone notices that I am not normal. I am extremely athletic. mostly because of my determination and smextreme drive to compete!

but if this were not the case then I would probably show them that I'm not a push over. I hate fighting but had to do a lot of it from all the time I spent in jail. Having aspergers and a heroin addicted mother with no father made for lots of trouble.

jail is closed quarters and you have to spend a lot of time with your cell mate and the rest of your tier. which is hard because I cannot communicate so I become unliked very fast. So I had no choice but to lock in a room with people sometimes twice my size. I've been jumped too. So maybe I was instilled with a different mindset but I would get in someones face and let em know back the f**k up. if they have something to say, then punch them in their s**t lol

Like I said though, if your a good athlete then none of this will matter!

The only sports I have any appreciable talent for are hockey and badminton. Badminton isn't a team sport, so no problems there. I might try to play hockey again at some point, but I haven't really joined a proper team for it before, just played it at school. I have no idea what that's going to be like. I'm appalling at every other sport. Well I can swim, but I'm not fast enough to do it competitively.