does anyone else find this blog insulting?

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That's good. I think all aspies know that they're "different" by the time they hit pre-school, but it's important to stress the fact that they're not inferior to other people and that they are just as entitled as everyone else to a worthy life.

What indeed? That's why I think it's a terrible idea to blog about your kids unless you do it in the most generic way possible, such as mentioning them now and then in your blog about some other subject. (I don't think it's a problem if some cooking blogger mentions that her son hates broccoli or whatever.) But if you make your kids the focus of your blog, is it inevitable you will say some things that should stay private in your family or even things that should stay private in your head (such as this disappointment). What these parents are sharing would be completely appropriate to share with a therapist. But not the whole googling world.

People share concerns and angst about their kids in the Parenting subforum (I have too) but it is always oblique and stripped of the identifiers that would make a kid think "ohmigod that's me she's talking about! And this poster must be my mom!" But on a blog it's all spelled out. Sometimes there are photos. All a very bad idea. It deprives the kid of privacy (since some very personal details are spelled out- sometimes with pictures) and can horrify the kid if they come across it. "That's what they thought of me?!?!?" Bad idea Bad idea


As to why it's always about kids and not adults? It may be that it's considered unseemly to blog about your adult sons and daughters. At least I don't ever see people do it. But as posters here note, those kids will grow up and that blog will still be in cyberspace, waiting to be found. Or worse yet, it may be found by a school bully while the kid is still a kid and its' contents used as ammunition....shudder..... I don't know why parents don't think of that. It would be mortifying to the kid.

That's exactly why I was happy when I found this site. Every search I did in my area was all about parenting resources for children with AS. NOTHING about any adults with it or any type of social kind of gathering until I stumbled across this site.

Yeah, never looking at that website ever again...

yeah it reminds me of how my mother is too, maybe thats why it makes me cringe so much.... only as i grew older did i realize that she is not so perfect herself and is incapable of healthy relationships and boundaries! don't get me started on my mother

I hope that getting earlier diagnoses, like it seems to be happening today for at least some kids, will make it easier for kids to grow up knowing themselves and their strengths. I cannot go into depth enough about how much it hurt to go from contract to contract for three years and then only find out about AS AFTER all of that, and being labeled "slow" and "different". And there are so few services for adults in my region too.

I also wish there were some books about Aspies where having Asperger's isn't such a huge aspect of the plot. Just part of the character's quirks. Not like, out and out, "this is what Asperger's is for the uninitiated", but say like, a good sci-fi or fantasy book or something. Maybe something for me to do for Nanowrimo next year.

I got a kick how most of the "articles" are actually "advertisements" for books they are trying to sell instead of helping people.

This happens a lot with "medical" websites. Just today I was looking for stuff on diabetes, and I found a lot of pages with COLORED CAPITAL LETTERS dispersed through the texts and at the bottom of the page a link to some product.

Websites on "multi-level marketing" and other ponzi schemes also use this style for some reason.