Pain - do we experience it the same as NTs?

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A source of confusion and frustration for me when I was little was stuff like the time I needed to wash my hands while my mother was doing the dishes. I went to put my hands under the stream of water, only to discover how extremely hot it felt. Now, I know children often can't tolerate the intensity of extremes of temperature that adults can, and my mother knew this, too. She's the one who criticized my father for running a bath for my sister and me that was too hot. What got me in this hand washing situation was when I said it was too hot, and my mother replied with, "No it isn't." Being told things didn't feel the way I said they did really threw me, and that was a thing that didn't entirely go away when I grew up. I can see how people would say things didn't feel the same to them as they did to me, but I really don't get, at all, being told that things don't feel to me the way I say they do. And I'm pretty sure that's what my mother (and others after her) tried to tell me. She meant the water wasn't too hot for me to put my hands in to wash them, not that the water wasn't too hot for her to put her hands in to do the dishes.

I do think the pain experience might be slightly altered (or the complaining may be atypical). My daughter was complaining about a sore ear on Sunday night. She didn't appear to be in a tremendous amount of pain, so we waited until the next to take her to the doc. He said she had a severe infection and her eardrum was almost at the point of bursting. Thankfully, it hasn't burst and the antibiotics appear to be taking effect. This is the 3rd time she has had a really bad ear infection and at no time would I have thought she was in agony. She also broke her leg and we didn't know until the next day. She didn't complain much about that at all. Yet, she screams every morning, when I very gently comb her hair.

My experience of pain may be atypical too. When I was in labour, I was in a lot of pain (as is expected with a back to back induced labour). But, I don't think I made it clear to anyone that I was suffering. Most people in my situaton would need a c-section, mainly due to not being able to take the pain. But, I just put up with it, even though I never got any relief whatosever from the gas&air or the morphine injection. I needed asssitance at the end (details on request only), because I was in so much pain that I didn't know what I was doing. Still, I don't think the midwife had any idea that I was in such discomfort. I really should have been advised to have an epidural, from the very start, but they can only tell you what your options are.

I very nearly ripped off all my thumb skin off last night. It bleeds like a tap when I do so, but I am able to pull myself out of the pain and just finish the job. It started from a piece of skin, but I just HAD to rip off the entire skin region, I don't know why.

Very embarrassed to confess this